So my question for those of you out there who are really, truly seeking a spouse and are not just going through the motions but have made up your minds that only one "type" of woman/man will be the perfect one for you (I put you men first because you do tend to be the more slow on the uptake when it comes to relationships - just sayin'), how do you expect to really judge someone's attractiveness based upon a few small profile pictures, and a profile introduction that can only share a fraction of who someone is? I think that you are frauds quite frankly if you say you want to meet the woman or man you can share your life with, if you won't take at least a few chances on some of the people who contact you to really try to get to know them.
Go ahead and hit me with your vitriol about my harshness, or your insistence that there is no one "here who is the one." Flame me if you want. I don't really care. As someone who has BTDT, had a fantastic marriage to a man I met on a Catholic dating website, and wishes I never had to even consider starting again, I can tell you you will not find that one unless you are willing to take a few risks, step outside of the neat little life you have created for yourself, and really, truly try to see who might come into your life. It might mean being willing to leave that job you have in that city because fulfilling a call to the vocation of marriage is a higher priority for you. It might mean leaving your family and friends, at least for a time, to make a life somewhere else with the man or woman who will be your spouse. It may ultimately mean relocating kids if you are a custodial parent.
My late husband was not anything at all like the man I held in my dreams of who I thought I would marry, and yet I fell hopelessly in love with him and he was EXACTLY the man I needed. He sacrificed his job to move to my city when we became serious. Later, after a couple years of marriage, I made the sacrifice of living close to my family and friends, to relocate to a different state so we could be closer to his elderly father. In a sacramental marriage, couples are asked to sacrifice for each other daily. If you put so many parameters on what you are/are not willing to do/accept (they have to be attractive and smart and tick off all your boxes; you won't leave your job, you won't leave your area, you want your own children but not his/hers, you only want [fill in the blank]), are you really leaving your heart open to God's direction? If you aren't willing to demonstrate you can make sacrifices during the dating process, how do you think you are going to do within the context of a loving, Catholic marriage? Are you willing to sacrifice what you think you want now, to be given what you truly need?
Guess that's more than one question.