I admit I was very slow to catch on to this and in my early 30s was rather embarrassing to learn the hard way. However for the very way I felt, it only places all the more emphasis on that its also good manners to extend one the courtesy of calling upon at least some degree of the proper social graces as for a true lady or gentleman should be always their foremost thought.
As for my dear mother who is now with God.
Back when she was a girl felt that a guy could just go whistle if he wanted her to call him back and no doubt her parents would have given him an earful if he expected that!
This made sense to me, particularly in my case because it was always long distance due to the sacristy of the single women in my area, they all lived in the city and leaving a message saying Ill try again later. I learned this was a bad mistake and was a bit stunned when she did pick up the phone, said Paul please dont call me anymore then hung up and that was it, but not without telling other women about the incident who also didnt understand. That I was trying to do the right thing! Also when a friend told me how many of them have so many free minutes that they dont use and they could have easily called me this was another shock because for me it was always so expensive.
As the years passed I watched caller ID and answering machines give way to cell phones and texting opened a new door to communicate yet be unobtrusive bridging that gap and for some people I never think to call and always text first.
I feel all these things enabled people to set new boundaries however at first attracted by those who were inclined to take themselves a bit to seriously thus in the process of embracing them, departed from practicing the proper social amenities because they had the info they needed and in our societies never ending pursuit of efficiency the unvarnished truth is till the newness wears of our toys the realization in how the new acceptable behavior is desensitizing us will prompt the question Is it really all worth it?
Its my hope someday that asking folks for directions wont end with them turning their backs or asking a woman to dance and rather then a simple no thank you walk away and after standing with a dumb look on her face have her girlfriend translate the obvious in English !
Perhaps it was rude to ask, and a kindly policeman gave me a few tips on body language what my mother thought was absolutely ridiculous but not all women are this way and some can make a no feel almost as good as a yes and make me glad I asked and it all really took so little time!
The other side is respecting peoples boundaries
Its said in our country we have few social rules but are highly intolerant of those who break them and many of the things that are deemed to be acceptable or unacceptable behavior often amazes me as I have found them to be held up with just as much in acceptance or rejection of true Christian ways.