(quote) Rachel-731570 said: I am considering joining a local singles group for Christian singles of the above 30 age range. My friend who belongs to my neighborhood church, not Catholic, is trying to get one up and running. It is much needed! There are many good people in my town that love God, want to live good lives, are single and would benefit from a group like this! It is difficult to meet others if we don't hang out at the bars, which I and most others who fit this group don't do.
I'm a bit excited about the prospect!
But on the other hand -- do I want to marry outside the faith? How likely is it that somewhere in the group I will meet someone and we fall in love but are different faiths? I went through that once, being married to a Christian Scientist (NOT Scientology) and our hearts never could fully share the same love of God and life because his understanding was so limited and false (CS believes Jesus was just a 'good guy' not God, don't believe in sin or hell, believe that as long as they are not caught doing something then they are not guilty of it, fine with birth control, etc) and I really would love to share fully with a husband rather than have such a dichotomy again.
Would you join a non-Catholic but Christian group? Will it be more like searching on Match or other dating sites where the quality of matches is less likely to result in a good and Godly match, or would you have high hopes?
No, unless I clearly discerned that was the direction God was leading me in (my impatience finding a potential spouse would not qualify as said discernment).
Keep in mind that while other Christian religions may seem close to Catholicism theologically, many of the members have a disdain for Catholics and Catholicism to the point of not even considering Catholics to be Christians. Even wheny our potential spouse has no such issues, pressure from family members can build over time and cause problems which may not be evident until after the marriage.
The Church discourages inter-faith marriages for good reasons. Granted, some of these are related to the upbringing of children in the Faith which may not apply to older couples; however, the faith of the Catholic spouse is always a consideration.