I'm 48 and I hardly ever get any messages or emotigrams from anyone on the site. I have been on this site for more than a couple of months and have never had a date from it.
I don't know why. I send messages but get nowhere. On this site I've never had the chance to talk about what I want in life because it never gets that far with anyone.
I'm from Ireland and the Irish men seem to be rather few in number. Also whenever I message someone I just get a polite reply and nothing more and sometimes no reply at all, which I think is a bit thoughtless.
I aiming at men who are the same age or slightly older than me but have got the cold shoulder so often I get the feeling they are only interested possibly in someone younger so they can marry and have children.
When I meet men naturally at dances they assume I'm younger than I am because of makeup etc and when we get dancing and talking and he says he'd like to go out with me, I ask him does he want to get married and have children in the future he says he does. The difficulty here is that I would be too old to have children and don't really have a wish for children although I get on great with nephews and nieces. I'm looking for someone around my age who feels the way I do that we could get married and not have children but so far have drawn a blank. I'm wondering therefore is it not good enough to not want children and is that what God is trying to say to me.
But when I look inside myself I really don't see the desire for pregnancy and children. No way. I didn't want them when I was young either. I can be a giving caring person but I really don't want to have to give in that way. I'd like to hear the thoughts of other Catholics on this.
If I am being unchangeably selfish in not wanting children should I stay single.and accept the occasional loneliness and boredom that goes with that or what? I don't want to push against God. By the way please don't tell me to expand my interests and hobbies because I'm trying to do that generally all the time!
I think a good partner would make me so happy though. I could make the right person happy and I want to see what married life would be like.