(quote) Jacinta-1043967 said: Do you think that as Catholics sometimes we are too marriage minded, especially when it comes to online dating? In the past forays into the CM world, I've caught myself behaving as if I have to decide if I want to marry someone before I've even had a conversation. Sometimes its easy to dismiss someone because of their picture, some fact in their profile, or even the tone of their writing. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? Is it better to be able to weed people out faster, or do you think that, instead, we pass by people that we might actually have been a good match with?
This time around, I've tried to be much more open, but so far conversations with the few people who have contacted me have fizzled with in a couple of emails, and interest from the people I've contacted has been zilch. It seems unlikely that I could meet fifty people in real life without striking up a friendship with at least one or two of them, and if they were all practicing Catholics, it seems like the odds should be even better. However, online, it doesn't seem to be working out that way.
Do you think that too much information coupled with the fact that most people are looking for marriage is the part of the reason that so many people on CM get such a poor response rate?
Yes, I see what you mean. I wouldn't call it being too marriage minded, but I do think folks makes all sorts of assumptions from a profile. In fact, I think people are making assumptions from looking at the thumbnail and the information that can be seen by hovering the mouse, and then not even getting to the point of viewing the profile.
I wish people would be more open to viewing profiles and then chatting a bit.
"It seems unlikely that I could meet fifty people in real life without striking up a friendship with at least one or two of them, and if they were all practicing Catholics, it seems like the odds should be even better. However, online, it doesn't seem to be working out that way." Yes, agreed.