Certainly we hope the next time will be different. (If I can allow myself to be that vulnerable again...).
- on a good day
You see your spouse's flaws and shortcomings, but you decide you made a commitment and you work on your relationship. Your spouse does the same. You both still try to make the other happy. You change over the course of time, but you both change and learn to get along with the changes.
But what if its not a mutual commitment to each other?
I was still so sad about the divorce, my x was remarried, and I was necessarily moving on. It helped mark the year. Besides, I love wedding cake!!
Did I celebrate the divorce? Of course not!! What Catholic wants to do that? But, as with the death of my son, people look at us to show them How to endure?! And so, I modeled resillance and fortitude.