It looks like I am the 1st to reply, and will be going against your request for "women only". Your post caught my eye as I am in the same boat, and will share what I did. My wife, too, died in our bedroom, and after her death, I repainted, and purchased an all-new bedroom set, including mattress. As the home is paid off, I love where I live, and the fenced in yard is convenient for my two dogs, I expect to remain in this house for the foreseeable future. In talking with my deceased wife's siblings, they recommended that I repaint and buy new, so that's where I am at.....
My husband died in an adjoining room to our bedroom where I had a hospital bed set up for a year before his death. He was in hospice for 4 months before he passed. Now I am using it as a computer room.
My impression is that many new couples buy a new home together, perhaps to leave behind all the baggage of the old houses, or perhaps to find one that better suits their needs and taste.
From a financial standpoint, to move costs about ten percent of the value of a house, so moving is expensive. Like a lot of people my age, I live in a decent house in a nice town, and it's paid for, so why move? Maybe to be closer to kids, I suppose.
I would not want to live there, but here is why: you need to move on and get over her death. Living in the same place with a new love will not help you to do this. (A CM success couple I know is suffering from the husband still being in mourning for his first wife...10 years later. Unfair to wife #2.)
I continued to live in the home my husband died in for a full 9 years. I think it delayed my recovery. Once you have gotten past your grief, you'll be ready for a new lady and a new home.
I don't think it would bother me with an exception -- if the entire house had to remain as it was and there was no room for my personality or favorite things that would bother me.
I purchased a home after my husband died, so he has never been here. I put our bed in the guest room and bought a new bedroom set. We had greatly downsized everything and were living with my daughter and son-in-law to help them out with renovations on their little house -- because I was about to finish my PhD and we didn't know where we would be going and all of our kiddos are grown, so it was an exciting time for us, planning and dreaming a little and just enjoying not having all the responsibilities of lots of stuff.
I love my house and Pete would probably be hating it lol. . . white leather furniture and a chaise in red leather instead of a broken down old recliner lol. . . but that's okay.
I have a question in return. Pete's wish was to be cremated and interred until I passed and then to have his cremains buried with me. I intend to honor that and the children know that he wished this and I intend to honor that. So, how would a fella feel about that?