I have no effective answer to this dilemma that is palatable to most people, but I have an idea for those whose psychological make-up includes a dash of "throwing caution to the wind".
If you describe a "Justice of the Peace" as someone who verifies signatures, then a newly invented professional called a "Justice of the Photo" would be someone who makes direct contact with a particular individual in order to verify for others, the degree to which the real person matches the photos posted in Catholic Match. In summary the job of Justice of the Photo can be divided into two steps: (1) a meeting with the "viewee" to determine to how the real person compares to pictures in Catholic Match and (2) subsequently being available to answer other members who inquire whether a given man or woman looks anything like the photos in age and other traits.
Here is how it would work. A member of Catholic Match who'd like to have his photos evaluated for how honestly they represent the real him would write something like this and post it further down the page of this topic.
"I can't blame people who have serious reservations about member photos. I think that doubts about my pictures may be stopping some woman from considering even a slight bit of light communication. I can claim that I look like my pictures, but my opinion will be seen as prejudiced. I need a third-party to check the degree to which I do or do not match my photos and then to be willing to reply to inquiries from other members who want to know how I compare to my photos. If you would be willing to meet somewhere at your convenience for as little time as a single minute, let me know. I can't pay much, but a coffee or the like will be on me. Since this meeting will be for a practical matter and not social one, I'll meet with any woman willing to be a Justice of the Photo for me no matter her age, seven-questions status or other trait. Just send me a message to that effect either on this page or by email."
If this seems like a sneaky way to meet someone, I'd say that could be true only if I knew who'd be replying, but since I have no idea which, if any, of the hundreds of women members in greater NYC might respond, my approach does not have a high-percentage chance of meeting any particular woman.
I welcome other men who could use the services of a Justice of the Photo, also to post their requests here.
Also I invite women in any part of the country to offer to be a Justice of the Photo in your neck of the woods because some of us men feel too awkward to ask.
In closing, I repeat my request to be contacted by any woman in greater NYC willing to act as my Justice of the Photo.
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