26 contacts made (12 on catholic match, 14 on match.com)
8 responses (including one emoticon and one no thanks)
18 ladies did not respond.
Out of the 18 ladies who did not respond, six of them looked at my profile, which means 12 of them did not look at my profile. As best as I can tell those 12 ladies were active on the website, which means that they should have received my emails, and had an opportunity to look, but did not bother to look. I have no idea why a lady who received a personalized email would not even bother to look at a profile. It seems kind of odd, even if it was only because of curiosity. Maybe they did not like my photo.
Out of the 8 responses, six of them responded with varying degrees of interest. One of the eight contacted me first, after I favorited her. So far I have had one face to face coffee shop meeting, with her. I have another meeting coming up, perhaps at a weekly dance that the lady usually attends, but that keeps getting put off. One lady just had knee replacement, and one lady just broke her foot, so they are out, at least for a while. I will probably follow up in a month or so with those two ladies. One lady was in California, and wanted to contact me after she got back to Colorado. The sixth lady is still pending, she was concerned that I lived too far away, about one hour, so not sure if that will go forward.
The response rate appeared to be about the same from Catholicmatch.com and match.com.
In terms of timing of responses, five of the eight responses were within two or three days, but three of them responded a week or two later. It is possible, then, that this data is not final, that someone who I contacted recently will respond later.
One interesting statistic looked at the ages of the responders. Out of the 26 contacts, ten of the ladies were more than two years younger than I. Only one of the responses was from one of these younger ladies. Perhaps unsurprisingly, my response rate was much lower for the ladies significantly younger than I. Probably the best way to improve your response rate is to only contact people your own age or older. ;-)
If anybody else was willing to share their own data, I would be very interested, whether you respond on the forum, or in a private email.
I would not feel bad if your own data is not so favorable. Somebody told me that I have a great profile, so that helps my response rate. In my age bracket, women outnumber men, so that also helps.
Regardless of the percentage of response that you get, you just have to keep trying. You really need to adopt the salesman mentality, that you have to keep knocking on doors, even if some of them get slammed in your face. Talk to a salesperson about rejection, and how they deal with it. Don't take it personally. You have to keep smiling, keep your chin up, and keep working at it.
Good luck to everyone.