I wonder why this happens for a lot of us. I know with me, the pattern keeps on coming as to what type of man finds me interesting and admires me for who I am. It's not entirely that I don't like my pattern. The man who converses well, wants the best for you, cares for you & listens to you.is very attractive. Men who drift in other directions though brings unhappiness into my life. The drifting may include involvement in activities which don't include me, going out with those people in social settings, talking about other women/ interests in them or acting as though they are interested in him (even if it's not true), self centeredness and lastly leaving me at the drop of a hat to help another woman friend out. I know enough by now not to repeat this scenerio. Lessons that are learned are meant to be eye openers or an alert to let you know you are in the warning zone.
It still hurts though to tell someone you aren't right for them. I'm sure this is done often especially on online sites. I believe it's important to not hurt other people in the process but that is almost impossible given the circumstances. One thng about me that may be different from other women is that I will stay friends with these men. Yes, believe it or not, I will be helpful when asked about other women by them. I believe it is a Christian way to act. I have read about the process of breaking patterns and have spoken to professionals about this as well. This is the most difficult thing to do for people seeking a new relationship.
So, have you found breakups to be more difficult online or about the same as they are in real time?