I am interested to hear what everyone has to say about this---
Maybe, if you have been courting for a while, and are considering and praying about an engagement, or if there is a significant red fag that suggest financial infidelity towards and ex, or parents.
In other cases, I would say no. The last two girls I me,t and courted from Catholic Match both lived over one hundred miles away from where I live. When you add up the cost of gas, dinner, and ice cream, or coffee/tea afterwards, I was spending about one hundred dollars per date. For me that is a significant sacrifice/commitment.
To add on top of that, fifty, to seventy-five dollars, to run a complete background check, form my perspective, would imprudent, and reckless. Especially if it were early in the courtship process; what Kerry Cronin what call level one dating.
Eventually, after several months, if become engaged is something right around the corner, then sure. But when it comes to doing a background check before the first date, or after the first date, I would recommend using prudent stewardship.
Note that the internet is your friend. Type in the person's name and city, and see what comes up.
I should note, however, that my sister was robbed by someone she met on the internet, so some care is appropriate. She is/was too trusting, wants to see the best in everyone. She trusted someone she hardly knew, a risky practice. Not sure if a background check would have identified this guy or not, but I think that he may have a pattern of this.
However, sometimes something just smells a bit fishy, and at that time a background check might seem like a great idea. I could see also, with an LDR, your face time with the potential partner is necessarily limited, and so perhaps a background check would be appropriate as a supplement.
I think that a credit check would tell you a lot. If somebody's life is a mess, or they have addictions or poor impulse control, I would think that it would show up on the credit check. Insurance companies use credit checks, and have the statistics to show that people with bad credit have more auto accidents and claims than folks with good credit. Of course, someone with credit problems could be OK, maybe they had a run of bad luck, or didn't learn about money as a young person. Perhaps they are a bit of a spendthrift, in which case money management is something that would have to be worked out before marriage.
Sometimes I have a winners and losers view of life; people who are successful in one area are often successful in other areas, while people who have problems in one area may have problems in many areas. Another example is that people with more education tend to have fewer divorces, live longer, and have better health.
Individuals who had dropped out of high school were 6.34 times more likely to develop alcohol abuse or dependence than were individuals with a college degree. American Journal of Public Health. The same article also indicated the people who completed college had less than half the levels of alcohol abuse compared to people who went to college but did not finish.
I should probably write a paper about this. There are so many studies showing all kinds of correlations between seemingly dissimilar areas, supporting the concept that success in one area of someone's life, correlates with success in other areas.
Maybe I should have said "Especially if you don't have very good and old mutual friends." LOL. Is that better?