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I have a lay spiritual director (married woman) that I found through another friend. She previously worked at a retreat center doing spiritual direction, but is now retired. I do not pay her, but I have from time to time given her a small gift (nice ornament at Christmas, a book we've talked about or she might like, etc.) in appreciation for all she does. I do think paying a spiritual director is certainly allowed and those associated with a retreat center (for a guided personal retreat) often have a suggested fee via the retreat center.
From the beginning my spiritual director and I both sensed that somehow God was in our meeting, and our conversations often feel like prayer. God is definitely present with us. We talk about anything and everything - current life struggles, decisions, circumstances - but most importantly how God is in those things and what my prayer is like. She often suggests ways to seek God in a specific circumstance or to go deeper in prayer (staying with a particular question, reflecting on a particular passage, etc.) She both supports and encourages/challenges me. I will say though, that the practical things going on in life are a big part of the conversation, and that was a pleasant surprise (prior to doing spiritual direction I thought we'd only talk about prayer, but it is immensely helpful to talk about the circumstances of life through the lens of faith with someone! Such a gift!)
I think some dioceses now have lay spiritual director formation programs, so for those seeking a spiritual director that might be a good starting point in finding one. The vocations director would also be a good contact person who might know of men and women within the diocese who offer spiritual direction.
I'm curious to see other peoples experiences and thoughts too. I dragged my feet for years in finding a spiritual director (afraid of the unknown), but it has been only a blessing! God bless, Sarah