Hold on, though, and wait a minute! In the back of your minds there is that constant fact that the we met on Catholic Match or somewhere else for purpose of dating. Isn't there supposed to be something more happening here? We are good friends, you both tell yourselves, but maybe there could potentially be more. One of you feels a great deal of attraction and yet isn't sure if the other is feeling the same. Eventually you have the "talk" and realize that friendship is all you both want right now. Great, I guess, maybe, not sure...who really knows.
Six months later, though, and many more hours spent together, one of you is still feeling an attraction. However, not wanting to intimidate, embarrass, or scare the other friend, these emotions are kept inside. At the end of the outings, the one with the "feelings" wishes so much that it was possible to express to the other something so much deeper.
Whether this story is fact or fiction doesn't really matter. The point is to demonstrate the frustration and heartache that can develop when two people of the opposite gender spend a great deal of time together.
Being a woman, I belive it is harder on her if the guy involved is not reciprocating deeper feelings because a lot of women prefer not to initiate this type of conversation. Perhaps I am a bit old fashioned in this regard. I am not sure. How does a conservative woman get a guy to open up without using some of the secular (impure) methods present in society? It causes a great dillema. For the guy involved, he does not want to come on too strong and intimidate the woman.
So how long is too long before one of the two must have the courage to speak up about their true feelings? Does "friendship" eventually become a comfort zone to deny something on a deeper level out of fear?