I remember when one of my brothers got engaged on Christmas, everyone was surrounding his bride to be, looking at the ring and congratulating her and I looked over at him walked over and gave him a big hug! And everyone looked and said yeah you're right we forget about the man!
All I want to do is get married at a Catholic church in front of the Eucharist. No big party, just some coffee and..afterwards. Sure it would be nice to have a pretty dress on, cuz we women like to feel pretty, but they have second hand dresses hardly worn or never worn at resale shops for around $50-100 including the vail.
When my late husband and I got married, I made my vail and bouquet myself. We both made all of the decisions, and the party was very simple, only close family and a few friends.
It has gotten out of hand it seems it's more about the party than the Sacrament. They're centered on themselves not God.