I chose this topic since it relates to my life's story, my dating pattern. I tend to choose the same type of guy over and over. Certain things about the self centered guy make him more interesting to me than a non self centered man. The life of the party kind of guy is fun to be around except when I begin to notice other women are wanting to get to know him and want to be around him as much as I do.HIs love for this attention is a complete turn off for me and has ended my relationships in the past. Even when I see many red flags, this pattern usually won't steer me in another direction even though I am fully aware of how unhappy I will be in the new relationship. I'm throwing this out here to see if others here are leaning toward the familiar type of man or woman they are used to in their past.
in another thread there was talk of making lists. I have made a list to compare past relationships with present ones. The similarities are quite shocking. I'm sure anyone who would read my list would tell me to stay clear of anyone remotely close to the past bf's. I will give the benefit of the doubt to the new guy in my life though with hopes that he won't turn out to be an exact replica of my past experiences.
I've read in the forums where the topic was all about throwing in the towel and forget about dating.
As I get older and wiser (hopefully) I would like to think that I will make the right choices in order to be truly happy for the rest of my life whether it be a single one or a married one.
All the self help books out there cannot stop the patterns we follow. Has anyone heard of another person being able to break their patterns? This subject area interests me so I'm hoping for some good solid feedback.