You are quite accurate in saying that it takes effort to be here and to try to reach out to others of the opposite sex - it is a risk. I certainly hope your time here is more fruitful with regards to meeting your potential wife. I find myself questioning why I am here since membership on CM has failed to generate even so much as a Skype opportunity. I truly don't know what Catholic men are looking for...
That being said, the forums (or fora) are filled with good people who are supportive and helpful. Be sure to participate in them and don't become like so many men here who have profiles but never respond to anything and never participate in anything.
Secondly, not all women are like that, in fact I'd dare say the majority of active, paying customers are not like that. Anyone who writes me, I write them back. Anyone who takes my interview I take theirs (if they have one...) too. Anyone who sends me an emote, I send one back. Anyone who views my profile, I'll view theirs too.
Thirdly, what you are describing is unfortunately truly a two-way street. The same thing has happened to me time and time and time again, I put myself out there and nada. I know how it feels, like you're invisible and/or there something so glaringly 'wrong' with you that others can't even take 10 seconds to respond. Guys in my own age group more times than not also do not reciprocate attempts at communication.
I've come to the conclusion that the online dating world is similar to the real world in that every person you look at, smile at, talk to, show interest in in the real world are not always going to look back, smile back, engage in conversation or show interest because maybe they just aren't interested, are too busy, are involved with someone else, have lots of issues/problems at present to deal with etc. And that in both 'worlds' if/when one puts too much of him/herself out there, that can really freak some people out. That being said, maybe timing just isn't right or too much was shared too soon. If you truly like someone on here, just as you might be interested in someone you come across in your everyday life, but she doesn't at first seem interested or want to communicate, give her another chance or two. Show a bit of persistence (though don't overdo it!) just to let her know that you really would like to get to know her and that when she might have the time/ability to talk, then you very much would like to communicate with her. Let her know your online door is open and that there's no pressure, just a lovely interest.
Take care and God bless
It happens to every age group yours is no exception. I had one woman go crazy that I asked her out and she cut off all contact and went inactive for a while. Let's face it some people can't handle online contact at all. Makes you wonder why they are online at all.
If you don't receive a response, don't take it personally it seems most of the women here do that. Maybe you will be lucky and some one will contact you on her own with no prompting. It happened to me here. Patience is a virtue but one that is tested every day. If it is meant to be it will happen.
It's already been said but if they don't write you back then just forget about them. The knowledge that they're inconsiderate should override whatever attracted you to them in the first place. Honestly I think this "majority" you refer to won't except anything unless they're clearly getting the better of the exchange. So basically you end up with a large group that's waiting for Brad Pitt to log in and ask them out. Eventually they'll probably realize that's not going to happen.
And yes, I'm sure a lot of guys are the same (though hopefully not waiting on Mr. Pitt).
I just checked out your profile and here is what I can think of that might send those young ladies running into your arms.
You pic is very hard to see. It is too dark. This is something the ladies need to do as well.
2. lots of ladies would be scared off because your answer is no to premarital sex.Meaning that you think sex before marriage is okay with you.
3. To the ideal number of kids you have 1-2. I had one of" number of'
. and then reconsidered and put Don't have an ideal. Lots of ladies might be put off by the fact that you have already made up your mind and it is set in concrete
yes folks male/female might still not answer and I don't know why. I recently got a lovely reply
"Thank you for the smile. How is your search going? Every good wish for the future"