(quote) Andrew-1045895 said:
I could see it if I'd asked her to meet in a very private place, possibly. But I'd never do that on a first date. I don't like hearing the excuse of "well you never know these days".
That is a good point. It is one thing to be reasonably cautious but another to stifle the chance of getting to know each other. I hope they did not intend to come off as rude but perhaps did not realize how unfriendly their perhaps excessive caution appears.
I grew up in Chicago and take as given that you do not get in someone's car or go somewhere alone or private when you have just met someone. That is not something I would discuss with a date, while a practical safety precaution it is a bit of a mood dampener to bring up. You, from your post intend to show respect for a ladies safety concerns by suggesting first meetings in well light public places.
Personally I think things like a casual restaurant, a fair, zoo or other place like that is great for a first meeting. Not just for safety considerations but also just as a low key way to get to know each other.
Perhaps the intent not to imply you were dangerous but they wanted you to meet their friends. Someone who feels like a person they meet online should be friends first and then see if romance blossoms might literally want to see how you interact with their friends...or perhaps she did not drive, or as you said she might have wanted to discuss you with her friends. At least in that case you can feel fascinating instead of dangerous ;)
Hope your next dates go better....