I'm a big guy - always have been. Weighed 12 lbs at birth. The only time in my life that I have been arguably near average weight was when I was around 5-7 years old - heavy before, heavy since. Have lost some weight from my peak, but not as much as I'd like. Yet, I feel it is important to like myself as I am, at whatever stage. God made me, after all. I am healthy in every other way, and I don't smoke, rarely drink.
I am wondering whether to even respond to women's profiles that say things like "I take care of my body and so do you", etc. There always that awful assumption that "fat" people are lazy, that we don't care about how we look. This is the major reason I have avoided Asian women because I have worked in Korea and Japan and was tired of the nasty comments I would get from them, many of whom looked anorexic and way too thin. I don't like their obsession with appearance.
Big people have hearts too, and I have regularly done well in my physicals. I work in Saudi right now, but not forever. I am decent, and I do care about morals. There is nothing wrong with me, except for normal human failings, and no, I am not in denial. I'd like to lose more weight, but I am comfortable with my looks.
I find it interesting that men are often said to be more "visual" than women. I think it's equal between the genders.
What I am trying to say is this: Ladies, if you don't like men being shallow regarding appearance, please don't be shallow with us. Give us a chance, take a little time to get acquainted.
Blessings to all!