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OK well here's where I get rotten fruit thrown at me. I put in my search/match criteria I don't want someone who hasn't been married before. They can be widowed, divorced, whatever but I married a guy who had never been married and was in his late 40's and it was a disaster, so....decided to seek out someone whose in the same boat I'm in.
You sound like a great guy and that you're doing all the right things. Hang in there, keep praying and please say one for me. May God continue to bless all of us on the site in our search,
I am so glad to see an article and all your posts about this. I have had the experience of some men not wanting to talk to me because I have been married and divorced twice.....maybe they really think either I do not know my mind or just keep racking marriages up! There were 2 very good reasons for my divorces. I do hope, if God wills it, to marry again - this time for the right reasons and to the right man. Yes, the annulment I went through was hard, but I feel it was the best way. Spent too much time trying to convince myself it did not matter if a man I was married to was not Catholic, or not a practicing Catholic......but you know, it really did matter to me!
All of you, have a wonderful blessed Christmas and a happy New Year!
Thanks for this Leslie,
I think a lot of men might dodge me because I've been married twice before. My first husband is deceased and I'm divorced from the 2nd--married outside of the church. Done deal. But like others have said, unless you ask me, talk to me, you might see, 2 marriages??? and assume that I'm divorced twice (not that one should be condemned if they were)--there are all sorts of situations. I can't help it my husband told me if I wanted to go back to the Catholic Church our marriage was done. Many others have said similar stories about them not being at fault and doing their best to keep their vows.
For these type of people I say it's your loss. There are some amazing divorced people who really DO know what commitment means and they learned it the hard way (many times through no fault of their own).
I have 2 annulments and I stand on the church's decision. If the catholic church has investigated your marriage and has approved you to be able to marry again in the catholic church, then no one has the right to say otherwise. If someone doesn't like it, they can take it up with I don't eliminate anyone as a potential date because they have not been married before. As long as they are free to marry in the catholic church they are fine with me.