My sister is married to a non-Catholic, when they were dating she went to Mass, he went to his church. After they married, he never set foot in any church again unless it was a wedding or funeral. She took the kids to his former church with his parents. I think the reasons people stop attending are varied, my brother-in-law just didn't see a need in it, but both of his children attended every week. Some people (as mentioned in this forum) become angry and/or hurt by the Church and reject the Church thinking they are rejecting the priest or nun that caused the pain. I often tell people that the Catholic Church Jesus established is perfect in every way, the humans running it, not so much. (Then I explain the Papal Infallability Doctrine). They throw the baby out with the bath water and do not realize it. The other reason for some people is that no one likes being "told" what to do. They were told they had to go to Church every Sunday since they were little, when they begin dating someone, they attend with the idea of "wedding" on their minds, after, they like "not having to go." (The word "obligation" is not pleasant). Some of the arguments I've heard were, "I'm supposed to keep the Lord's Day holy, it doesn't say I have to go to Church," then I point to the scripture "do not absent yourself from the assembly." What they do not realize is the Mass is not something we do for God (gasp!!!), the Mass is what God does for us and He knows we need nourishment for our bodies, souls and spirits. God knows we need to be fed at the table of His body and the table of His word. As far as what you can do about it? Pray, I prayed for my siblings to return to Holy Mother Church for many years. My sister returned and is now a committed Catholic (thank you Jesus), but I know how much it would mean to her if my brother in law would join her every once in awhile.
I was always the one to go to Mass. My ex wouldn't go unless I said...Let's go to mass. We were both raised Catholic and went to the same Catholic school, church, lived in the same neighborhood.
I truly believe that a Family that prays together, stays together. To this day...she only goes on Christmas, Easter, ...you know....
So I see it can work. It still prefer finding a Catholic woman though which is why I am a member of CM.
I try not to jump to conclusions about thread titles anymore. Some I have read in the past have been veerrryyy misleading
My deceased husband would not attend Mass when the church abuse scandals came out. Yet, he as a CCD teacher. I had to attend Mass alone. It would have been nice to attend with him. You can not make someone change their minds about an issue.
No one can't make another change their minds over an issue but GOD can, via our prayer, remember the story of St. Monica and St. Augustine, she prayed for 12 years(?) for the conversion of her son, and WHAMMO, boy did she get what she prayed for and then some!! So yes, it can happen!
I agree John, the family that prays together does stay together. I have tried to imbread that in my children since they were little. Good point
Thank you Marianne. Welcome to CM. I'm John......The One who NEVER Flirts! That's me....
What I have found in my experience is that when you share with the 2 of them or at least the one that does not go to church thing they might not know about their faith they start coming back to church... it can't be the spouse sharing this ... it has to be a friend... and it has to be put in a non preachy way. like isn't it cool that the miracle of the Eucharist in the year 700 and the one in 1998 in Argentina DNA match perfectly... god is so good to give us his body like that so we can change the world by bringing him to others... if you can tell a little more about it... Then the next time bring something new up such as what the mass is and how the book of revelation is about the mass... and so on... and the more they learn the more they will get on fire for the lord... most of the time the people just don't know their faith... GBU all