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I need a little advice, I have been divorced over 4 years and I have a 10 year old boy and 13 year old daughter. My son, who was baptized Catholic, did his First Communion and lives 2/3 of the time with mom and grandmother, during the school year he spends 5 nights out of 14 with me, and has expressed for a while that God does not exist, believes in the Big Bang. Well currently he is attending a Catholic School but cannot understand why he has to do Religion, his mom is in charge of his education per divorce agreement and this is his fourth school in four years, he has other issues mainly anger and respecting peers.
My question is how do I handle this, do I keep saying his prayers with him nightly, take him to Mass on Sunday, or does he stay at home with a babysitter. Another fact in this is mom is a Catholic but does not practice, does it for show more so to be honest.
Start out by pointing out to him that the idea of the big bang was postulated by a Catholic Priest. God created the universe and therefore it had to have a beginning. The secular thought at the time was that the universe was stagnant. A big bang theory showed that, in fact, there was a definable beginning. Explain to him that every single argument he may hear at school to refute the existence of God has a more logical explanation FOR the existence of God. (Suma Theologica, chapter one.) And that was written 650 years before the big bang was postulated.
The reason for being here (on earth) is to get to heaven. Therefore there is no meaning to life without OUR religion. Even the great existentialists have not been able to define a morality based on their belief system. (see Jean Paul Sartre books 3 and 4)
My daughter (now 19) also expressed doubts about God's existence and argued about going to Mass. I have always told her that it's natural to question God's existence and hopefully she'll understand better when she's older. As for Mass, I made it one of our non-negotiables. Until she turned 18, the rule was that she had to go to Mass with me every week and she was expected to not distract me (she has ADHD and always asks to use the restroom when she gets bored - then doesn't come back for 15 minutes). When she questioned why she had to go to Mass when she didn't believe, I told her it was out of respect for me. I told her that almost every other hour in the week was about her and her needs, but that one hour a week was about God and my need for Him. The few times she really distracted me and wouldn't settle, I found myself unable to take her anywhere or do anything that she wanted to do. She caught on quickly. She has also had (still has some) anger issues as well as problems with peers and authority. It's only been the last few years that she's settled down a little and made it through most of Mass without driving me nuts... and now that she doesn't HAVE to go to Mass, she doesn't go all the time. But she does come often and she believes in God most of the time, although she still questions. Hope things have improved with your son.
Pariac, Read this to him it's a great argument between science and belief in God
RE: Science vs Religion May 24th, 10:57:54 PM 0 .
A friend showed this to me awhile ago, and I thought it was pretty neat.
An atheist Professor of Philosophy was speaking to …his class on the problem
science has with GOD, the ALMIGHTY. He asked one of his new Christian
Students to stand and …
Professor : You are a Christian, aren’t you, son?
Student : Yes, sir.
Professor: So, you Believe in GOD ?
Student : Absolutely, sir.
Professor: Is GOD Good ?
Student : Sure.
Professor: Is GOD ALL - POWERFUL ?
Student : Yes.
Professor: My Brother died of Cancer even though he Prayed to GOD to Heal him. Most of us would attempt to help
others who are ill. But GOD didn’t. How is this GOD good then? Hmm?
(Student was silent )
Professor: You can’t answer, can you ? Let’s start again, Young Fella. Is GOD Good?
Student : Yes.
Professor: Is Satan good ?
Student : No.
Professor: Where does Satan come from ?
Student : From … GOD …
Professor: That’s right. Tell me son, is there evil in this world?
Student : Yes.
Professor: Evil is everywhere, isn’t it ? And GOD did make everything. Correct?
Student : Yes.
Professor: So who created evil ?
(Student did not answer)
Professor: Is there Sickness? Immorality? Hatred? Ugliness? All these terrible things exist in the World, don’t they?
Student : Yes, sir.
Professor: So, who Created them ?
(Student had no answer)
Professor: Science says you have 5 Senses you use to Identify and Observe the World around you. Tell me, son … Have you ever Seen GOD?
Student : No, sir.
Professor: Tell us if you have ever Heard your GOD?
Student : No , sir.
Professor: Have you ever Felt your GOD, Tasted your GOD, Smelt your GOD? Have you ever had any Sensory Perception of GOD for that matter?
Student : No, sir. I’m afraid I haven’t.
Professor: Yet you still Believe in HIM?
Student : Yes.
Professor : According to empirical, testable, demonstrable protocol, science says your GOD doesn’t exist. What do
you say to that, son?
Student : Nothing. I only have my Faith.
Professor: Yes,Faith. And that is the problem science has.
Student : Professor, is there such a thing as Heat?
Student : And is there such a thing as Cold?
Student : No, sir. There isn’t.
(The lecture theatre became very quiet with this turn of events )
Student : Sir, you can have Lots of Heat, even More Heat, Superheat, Mega Heat, White Heat, a Little Heat or No Heat. But we don’t have anything called Cold. We can hit 458 Degrees below Zero which is No Heat, but we can’t go any further after that. There is no such thing as Cold. Cold is only a Word we use to describe the Absence of Heat. We cannot Measure Cold. Heat is Energy. Cold is Not the Opposite of Heat, sir,
just the Absence of it. (There was Pin-Drop Silence in the Lecture Theatre )
Student : What about Darkness, Professor? Is there such a thing as Darkness?
Professor: Yes. What is Night if there isn’t Darkness?
Student : You’re wrong again, sir. Darkness is the Absence of Something. You can have Low Light, Normal Light, Bright Light, Flashing Light … But if you have No Light constantly, you have nothing and its called Darkness, isn’t it? In reality, Darkness isn’t. If it is, were you would be able to make Darkness Darker, wouldn’t you?
Professor: So what is the point you are making, Young Man ?
Student : Sir, my point is your Philosophical Premise is flawed.
Professor: Flawed ? Can you explain how?
Student : Sir, you are working on the Premise of Duality. You argue there is Life and then there is Death, a Good GOD and a Bad GOD. You are viewing the Concept of GOD as something finite, something we can measure. Sir, Science can’t even explain a Thought. It uses Electricity and Magnetism, but has never seen, much less fully understood either one. To view Death as the Opposite of Life is to be ignorant of the fact that Death cannot exist as a Substantive Thing. Death is Not the Opposite of
Life: just the Absence of it.
Now tell me, Professor, do you teach your Students that they evolved from a Monkey?
Professor: If you are referring to the Natural Evolutionary Process, yes, of course, I do.
Student : Have you ever observed Evolution with your own eyes, sir?
(The Professor shook his head with a Smile, beginning to realize where the Argument was going)
Student : Since no one has ever observed the Process of Evolution at work and cannot even prove that this Process is an On-Going Endeavor. Are you not teaching your Opinion, sir? Are you not a Scientist but a Preacher?
(The Class was in Uproar )
Student : Is there anyone in the Class who has ever seen the Professor’s Brain?
(The Class broke out into Laughter )
Student : Is there anyone here who has ever heard the Professor’s Brain, Felt it, touched or Smelt it? …No one appears to have done so. So, according to the Established Rules of Empirical, Stable, Demonstrable Protocol, science says that You have No Brain, sir. With all due respect, sir, how do we then Trust your Lectures, sir?
(The Room was Silent. The Professor stared at the Student, his face unfathomable)
Professor: I guess you’ll have to take them on Faith, son.
Student : That is it sir … Exactly ! The Link between Man & GOD is FAITH. That is all that Keeps Things Alive and Moving.
Tell him that Monsignor Georges Henri Joseph Édouard Lemaître, a Belgian priest who was also an astronomer and professor of physics, was the first person to propose the Big Bang Theory. There can be no contradiction between the Catholic faith and true science since both are based on the truth.
Tell him that Monsignor Georges Henri Joseph Édouard Lemaître, a Belgian priest who was also an astronomer and professor of physics, was the first person to propose the Big Bang Theory. There can be no contradiction between the Catholic faith and true science since both are based on the truth.[/quote I would not worry....Ten year olds go thru phases like this....Remember they are humans and have doubts...Remember they are professional ten year olds!!! He will come around,,,,,,