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Hi Solange, Dont feel discouraged. I have expereinced the same thing. I will try other sites soon. You are a beutiful woman with a lovely profie, it's not you, its either the site or Catholic men.
I don't think the problem is the site or the Catholic men. I think we sometimes expect this to be the perfect solution for us, when in reality it is just another venue for MAYBE meeting someone, we MIGHT like, who MAY ask to meet us. The only advantage over other sites that we HOPE the men are truly Catholic and here for the same reasons as us. Really, it is just another tool to use, like joining social clubs, participating in an activity you enjoy, or sitting next to someone at Church. None of these things guarantee us a future spouse, but added together the number of opportunities we have to POSSIBLY meet someone increases. It is both a numbers game, and the Law of Attraction. The more you put your intention 'out there' the more possibilities will come your way. Heck, your future spouse might be because someone 'saw' you in CM and thought you would be perfect for their sister-in-law's uncle, who isn't really an uncle, but......anyway, I'm sure you get what I'm saying.
Do not lose heart. It is better to receive no emails and wait for the right person than get a full inbox filled with the wrong people. It will happen for you and just trust and ask God for guidance and ask that God send someone thats right for you rather than someone you may want.
I don't know how to post on this forum...it's all new to me...my comment is that it's very discouraging when i send brief introductory e mails to new members i do not get a reply back...makes me wonder what is going on...why is it so hard for folks to at least respond back...I've been on this website for four months now and not one person has replied back...it's really discouraging and I don't want to quit...my profile is really nice...I'm a wonderful person to get to know so why the 'silent treatment'...responses anyone please.
I think there's a few things going on. For example when I had the free lurking profile I got a few responses but couldn't respond back. I wonder if a few guys I contacted had free memberships like I did. I think too some guys are intimidated by women they feel are out of their league, though in most cases it's just in their mind. The worst though is when you contact someone you know can respond but chooses not to. On a free site I contacted a guy who seemed to be what I was looking for. We even worked in the same field years ago! I sent him a semi long email asking him questions and telling him about me. I sent it on a Monday, he looked Tuesday and deleted Wednesday. That hurt so much I deleted my profile at the site (besides all that were contacting me were guys not looking for marriage).
When I read the first bolded statement above, Dawn, I felt --it never occurred to me to connect reading a same-sex profile with somehow expressing romantic interest in them. Eep! Made me sad.
I can relate to contacting someone with some questions, and they totally ignore you (me). My questions were simple, innocent ones, something about where they live or a particular hobby they mentioned or photo posted....and NO REPLY AT ALL. If they are free members, then at least they can send a smile emote--they couldn't add their own message, but this can signal someone like me that they are non-paid site users. And I would know and go on my merry way, instead of perhaps wondering what the bell is wrong with me that a man can't even answer a simple question. Then again, I am just a picture and a number to them, not necessarily a breathing human being made in the image & likeness of God who bleeds just as they do.
I just find that most everyone is broken in some way or another but every individual who does spend the time just to impact their life by a simple message even if unresponded does make them feel more confident in their persuit of a relationship. It will be sometime down the road of life where they will have to open up their hearts to people because as C.S Lewis puts it in "The Four Loves", everyone Needs Love and if they aren't recieving that love through friendship/companionship thats when they have troubles in their own lives. Give them the open door for the opoortunity but they have to choose to enter just like Christ does in our lives.
What a lovely post, Daniel. And pardon me for saying, And from someone so young. Thank you for writing it.
Then again, I am just a picture and a number to them, not necessarily a breathing human being made in the image & likeness of God who bleeds just as they do.
Or, perhaps, it doesn't bother them when someone doesn't respond to their messages and they never considered that it might bother someone else.