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I don't know how to post on this forum...it's all new to me...my comment is that it's very discouraging when i send brief introductory e mails to new members i do not get a reply back...makes me wonder what is going on...why is it so hard for folks to at least respond back...I've been on this website for four months now and not one person has replied back...it's really discouraging and I don't want to quit...my profile is really nice...I'm a wonderful person to get to know so why the 'silent treatment'...responses anyone please.
Why should I feel discouraged... why should the shadows come... why should my heart feel lonely...
Welcome to the world of online dating and to the forums There is a 50/50 chance that someone will return your message or emote, the odds are not in our favor, that's the nature of the beast. It could be a they lack manners or it could be they are not paid subscribers, they may lack interest or enthusiasm, a multitude of reasons exist.
Elle you are an AMAZING ARTIST....we should have a ARTIST EXHIBIT FORUM on CM
In its present configuration CM makes people of the same sex feel awkward clicking on a same-sex profile to see an artists work via their scrapbook
If we had an artists forum (that Elle should moderate) that did not show as a profile view when showing work - that would kick CM up a notch
FYI - I would love to see you photograph some of Austin's music acts - you would be very good at it
I am seeing the Canadian band Anvil tonight - these are the guys from the documentary film some years ago
See Solange - I would have never seen Elle's art if it was not for your post - this is how CM works
Cheers for Christ,
Ehhhh Hemmmm... There's alot of artists on CM.. Sergio did a thread recently about it..
For some of us our art takes more unconventional forms. In addition to painting I make one of a kind hats and jewelry.. And..I'm already a moderator..
When I read the first bolded statement above, Dawn, I felt --it never occurred to me to connect reading a same-sex profile with somehow expressing romantic interest in them. Eep! Made me sad.
I can relate to contacting someone with some questions, and they totally ignore you (me). My questions were simple, innocent ones, something about where they live or a particular hobby they mentioned or photo posted....and NO REPLY AT ALL. If they are free members, then at least they can send a smile emote--they couldn't add their own message, but this can signal someone like me that they are non-paid site users. And I would know and go on my merry way, instead of perhaps wondering what the bell is wrong with me that a man can't even answer a simple question. Then again, I am just a picture and a number to them, not necessarily a breathing human being made in the image & likeness of God who bleeds just as they do.
It really hurts the most when you write a long message to them and they delete, like what happened to me on another site. It was a free site so he could have responded but chose not to. If he wasn't interested he could have said no thanks. Because of that I am reluctant to contact men again.
I know how you feel I just paid for a 3 month membership and I haven't even had anyone look at my profile since Jan 30. I'm beginning to think I just wasted my money. Anyway I keep sending emails and smiles and hope someone has the courtesy to reply. I only want to begin a friendship with one man (I don't want all of them LOL) that could lead to more. I feel better knowing that maybe there are no reponses because the emails are going to someone who may not be a paid memeber.
I'm getting men looking at my profile but most haven't contacted me and it's frustrating. Are they free members, just curious about my profile, or interested but not enough to contact me? A few of them were what I wasn't open to dating so I am glad most of them didn't contact me, but others seem like good choices.
Thanks for having the courage to cover this topic. I really think there are alot of dimensions to this subject as well as alot of good advice here. You ARE a beautiful person. My take on this is that the best thing you can do is stand out for yourself, as yourself. Recently,a friend I had thought might have romantic intentions, and I talked. He said he wasn't sure if he wanted to be married. I backed up and said "maybe you haven't met the right woman". Then as he was walking out of the room he said "Or maybe I am afraid". I backed up again and said, "Maybe it is all three". I wish instead I had asked him what he was afraid of. I realize I am scaired too. I am afraid of being rejected. Most men that I know are afraid of faiing too. In a way my fear is that I am not desirable. Our presentation in both roles is basic and yet greatly based on our imaginings of others responses. I am not what I think of as flirty but I like to have fun. What I have learned is that when I am my funny self, /i am happy. Others accuse me of being flirty when I am that way. So be it. All is well for me. If a man doesn't respond to me when I am happy, then so be it. I have found myself in a win/win situation.I cannot control someone elses behavior. I can control my own( I am getting so grown up}. Sure I have lonely times and wish I could make a different connection, however i am still learning and that is a good sign that I am open to being available. And that is for me, my single experience. The only difference I can see in a relationships in a win/win situation would be a point that there would be moments of being valued by others .. and isnt that why I am here waiting while I learn to stand out for myself and for others.
I get the sense people over think. I would truly just like to develop a group of single friends to talk to and go out with. Instead on a Friday night I am on the computer. Friendship and companionship is so important. If a relationship goes further .....that's great - but, in the meantime friendships and companionship warm the soul. Thank God I do have some awesome friends....it's just many of them are married.
That is my number one pet peeve- no reply. That hurts worse than someone just saying they're not interested. Especially on a site for Catholics. But don't be discouraged, because I have met good people on here. It just takes time. And I've been on here, on and off, for 9 years, so I know what I'm talking about.