just don't use it to prolong the pain and mourning.
we can visit pity city, but we shouldn't live there.
Very true, David. People need to use it with the idea that they need to stay in forward motion. One of my daughter's teachers sent me a note when she heard I was separated and one of the things she mentioned was "Think resurrection". One of my main goals throughout the process was to come out not being angry, or full of bitterness and resentment, as I so often saw others. I do see people starting the process with those thoughts but the program does seem to help ease that problem. A person still needs to work on themselves after the program...it is not a cure-al,l but I believe them to be better off than those who do nothing and think they can do it on their own. I have had dates who haven't used any resources through their process and who 10 years later, still have problems with anger, bitterness, and resentment. That is no way to live life and that is a good reason to remain single. What woman would want to marry someone with that kind of attitude. I want someone who is at peace.