Stephen - i was laughing at your "i wouldn't make a shadow at that weight" comment, i truly loved it.... please let's not turn this thread into one of those men deserve women of a certain body type and what-not....never ends well.
Well since I started the thread here's the way I look at it (yes she's being direct) I am NOT less than 30 pounds overweight and I couldn't care less about what people think of my being a plus-sized gal. My ex was in perfect shape, nagged me non-stop about my weight and dropped dead at 50. I was almost 400 pounds when I had bariatric surgery in 2003 and lost well over 150 pounds. I had a tummy tuck later to remove some excess skin and while I'm not totally happy with what he promised to do and didn't, I accept that I am what I am. I have no issues saying I'm 235 and carry it very well. My health is solid and my cholesterol is so low the doctor can't believe it but that's because I detest red meat (although last night I did have a steak for the first time in 10 years). I am sick of apologizing and cowing down on dating sites because I am not "height and weight proportionate" and flunk their physicals. These "judgers" who have their own faults take one look at my weight (I could do what some do and lie but I don't) and thinking I am a slob. I am flawlessly neat, my apartment is immaculate and, I think I'm a pretty funny, intelligent, and creative person. I poured my heart and soul into my marriage, meeting him at the door with a drink, cooking, and cleaning and now I'm alone. It hurts bad to see that lack of appreciation but I know now that I left me behind and God never asked me to do that so now I have to learn and grow in my faith.
I am far from a "dream woman" but hey I have my faults and so does everyone else. But if all men see is that I'm "fluffy" then hike off with your canteen into the Gobi desert and eat your trail mix and parasail over Chernobyl. I trust in God and I know He has someone who will love me and when I find him, I will spoil him rottten. I am positive I will live a long productive life and judging anyone by their weight is truly sad. I know women who weight 1/2 of what I do and their health is WAY worse. I continue to work on my health but if you saw my fridge you would freak. There is no starch, no sugar, and only fruits and veggies ( I LOVE spring mix) so .....I guess those who will judge aren't worthy of us, right???