This room is for supportive and informative discussion about divorce and/or the annulment process. All posters must have been previously divorced or annulled.
Saint Eugene De Mazenod is patron of dysfunctional families & Saint Fabiola obtained a divorce from her first husband prior to devoting her life to charitable works.
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The church is run by humans who make human mistakes -
I had a friend who wanted to marry his first cousin, I talked to a priest about it and my former wife talked to a different priest. Both of these priests firmly stated - absolutely not the church will not marry cousins.
My friend talked to a Bishop who told him to go to a state where it was legal and it will be no problem.
He was married in the catholic church in Colorado, I for my part followed church advice and would not stand up for him and lost a friend in the process.
In previous years if a person received an annulment many of them were not to re-marry, this has changed and is not heard of anymore.
There was a day when a Catholic could not marry someone that was not Catholic, several of Martin Luter's demands nailed to the church door are now church teaching.
Bishops have knowingly allowed priests to molest alter boys.
The church authority has been known to be arrogant and uses what ever authority it is allowed, as members become more educated authority is loosened.
God is the one that will decide in the end what is right or wrong. People that have received annulments through covering the truth or falsifying may find they committed grave sin when they remarried in the church.
For me the Church is true but the authority may be confused or ignorant - I read the Catholic catechism and if my situation aligns with what the Church teaches then I am OK with God regardless of how authority may perceive it.
There are many people who's lives were greatly damaged because of ignorance of church authority.
I don't know what the rest of you have run across but in my age range and my geographical area about 3/4 of the men are divorced with out annulments. I find that very disappointing for me,
I did a search of women in a 150 mile radius that are divorced with no annullment and then did one for men by the same criteria just to be able to compare.
Women divorced with no annullment within 150 miles of Louisville, KY: 660
Men divorced with no annullment within 150 miles of Louisville, KY: 562
I realize you're looking for men as you are female. Just out of curiousity I thought I'd check. Overall there's not much difference between the sexes in this regard.