I don't know what the rest of you have run across but in my age range and my geographical area about 3/4 of the men are divorced with out annulments. I find that very disappointing for me, and dangerous for the sake of their souls. It is wrong and dangerous to date and not have a church annulment. It can lead you down the wrong path. Many of these people may decide to get married one day to a "free to be married in the catholic church" person and discover that their annulment that they applied for is denied, then what? If a person doesn't value marriage enough to get an annulment before they start dating, they probably aren't going to respect the church's decision if their annulment is denied. They stand a chance of marrying outside of the catholic church and leading another soul astray at the same time. This is reality, this other fluff about "I'll get an annulment when I need it" stuff is a dangerous dream. Is anyone coming across the same thing?
When I first received the questionnaire, I was - as was I'm sure a lot of other people - quite shocked by the tons of questions regarding my side of the family, her side of her family, how many sibs in each of our families - so many INNOCUOUS QUESTIONS OF IRRELEVANCE that could never address the central question: Does this marriage meet the Church guidelines for an annulment? Tons of questions requiring my ex to get involved and digging up information, e.g, "Name of Church where your spouse was baptized?" She has no clue to the answer and no way of finding out, and again, irrelevant. An annulment requires determining if there were any "imperfections" at the that would require an annulment. Good grief! I mean, if I go to Baskin Robbins for an ice cream, I would not expect the clerk to ask me if I wanted to try on a pair of shoes while I wait. The bulk of the questions on the questionnaire are entirely irrelevant to getting to the core of the matter. So, it's of no wonder why people put it off. I will seek an annulment when I'm mentally prepared to deal with my opposition to the process.