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This room is dedicated to those who are facing the challenge of raising children without the support of a spouse. This is a place to share ideas and lend mutual support.

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Hello everyone biggrin wave


Anyone tried doing a degree/diploma as a single parent?


I have had to do single courses to complement my degree for my job in the past.It was challenging, but I got through it.


A full degree or diploma with more than one course is quite a challange.


How have you'll handled this? scratchchin

04/28/2012 new

I went part time - 2 or 3 classes each semester, some online and some on the college campus. Then, after the divorce, I went full time. That was insanely difficult. It was so hard to get everything done. I was only working part time but studying and taking care of the children - I just never felt like I was doing a great job at anything. We all survived those two years but it was very, very hard. I had to relax my standards with the house and lower my expectations of what I could do with the children's school, their activities, etc. After being used to having a lot of involvement in their education and activities, I had to face the fact that it just wasn't humanly possible anymore.

And, there were times when I had to choose sleep over study just so I could function the next day.

04/28/2012 new

i had to go full-time and it was rough. my son & i were living on a ranch, overseeing a horseboarding facility - i had chores in the morning, chores in the evening, my homework, his homework. ugh.

we made it through - he helped me with my homework and i tried to help him w/his, LOL, i think his suffered a bit. i can't recall what we ate for dinner for those two years either scratchchin

04/29/2012 new
I found the same situation as Laurie. I put the younger children in a two days a week summer. I would go to class then eat a bagged lunch then study at the library where the messy house would call my attention. I also had an old coffers can tied with strips of activities. After I would study an hour, we would pull out an activity. Sometime it was play a game of cards, run around the house 3 times, field.trip, or even clean the bathroom. It gave the children and I what we needed the most- quality breaks.
04/30/2012 new

Thanks for sharing your experiences.


People did say they stopped any activities or socialising and they were not parents but also worked full time.


A reputable online program sounds like a great way to overcome a lot of the obstacles.



05/20/2012 new
I switched careers-- completed a degree in nursing, then went immediately into a masters program. If you are on the path God has set before you, you will be provided all the tools to succeed, I.e. emotional support , financial support, the ability to balance home life with school, etc. At times, resources seemed to fall from the sky. I agree an online program can be an option, but thoroughly research before making a decision. I pray God grants you discernment.
05/22/2012 new

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I immigrated to Canada with a 3 year old on my hand... started almost immediately a post-graduated degree at a very demanding university. No friends, no family, nobody... Just God! and he opened doors, provided friends, and all what I needed to succeed. If I was able to do this, anybody can! Just believe in yourself and trust in God!

05/23/2012 new

(Quote) Cari-789634 said: i had to go full-time and it was rough. my son & i were living on a ranch, overseeing a horseb...
(Quote) Cari-789634 said:

i had to go full-time and it was rough. my son & i were living on a ranch, overseeing a horseboarding facility - i had chores in the morning, chores in the evening, my homework, his homework. ugh.

we made it through - he helped me with my homework and i tried to help him w/his, LOL, i think his suffered a bit. i can't recall what we ate for dinner for those two years either

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I had three little girls oldest being 7 yrs old and 6 and new born.Ihad no help from my x and was lucky to get any child support I had to work very hard just to keep food on table and had a very hard time finding good babysitters I feel like I was totally cheated out at being a mom. I still have issues with this and I have been divorced 40+ years.Its baggage I will carry till the day I die

06/29/2012 new

(Quote) Sherrill-anne-13557 said: Hello everyone Anyone tried doing a degree/diploma as a single parent? <...
(Quote) Sherrill-anne-13557 said:

Hello everyone


Anyone tried doing a degree/diploma as a single parent?


I have had to do single courses to complement my degree for my job in the past.It was challenging, but I got through it.


A full degree or diploma with more than one course is quite a challange.


How have you'll handled this?

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I tried, but ended up not going back to school until my daughter was 20. I've been plugging for several years while I still work full time. Another couple of semesters and I will, thankfully - praise God, be done with my on-campus classes.

For those looking for an accredited college, check out Old Dominion in Virginia. They chose to get involved with online education more than ten years ago and have a stellar program with a variety of degrees including graduate school.

I'll be there for awhile!

07/01/2012 new

(Quote) Sherrill-anne-13557 said: Hello everyone Anyone tried doing a degree/diploma as a single parent? <...
(Quote) Sherrill-anne-13557 said:

Hello everyone


Anyone tried doing a degree/diploma as a single parent?


I have had to do single courses to complement my degree for my job in the past.It was challenging, but I got through it.


A full degree or diploma with more than one course is quite a challange.


How have you'll handled this?

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Doing anything as a single parent can be daunting. I would certainly encourage single parents to revise their priorities, as Laurie did, in order to preserve one's sanity. Some of this will depend upon the needs of the children -- they are still on top of the list, although you won't be able to participate in their world 100%. You must still "be there" for them because parental guidance is critical. Laurie pointed this out in her remarks. She had to sift through needs versus wants for her own well being. Being run into the ground isn't going to help anyone.

Taking on an additional project needs careful consideration and planning -- along with some back-up to help.

If a person is seeking a degree to obtain a better job, and support their family better, the effort can be worthwhile. To seek a degree for the sake of having one and no other purpose, that person might want to rethink their desire/goal. "Cost" versus benefit.

Being a single parent is exhausting, but assuming the degree is for a good purpose, I would offer support. I can't imagine how difficult it must be to take on more, but furthering one's education is temporary and there will be an end in sight.

My hat is off to all single parents; guess I'll have to get two hats to take off for those who take on the added role of continuing education.

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