(Quote) Keith-733524 said: I got a question for all of you. Went out last week. When I met my date she didn't look at all what she had...
(Quote) Keith-733524 said:
I got a question for all of you. Went out last week. When I met my date she didn't look at all what she had posted on the site. She admitted that the picture was 10 years old and she asked me if I was mad. I told her that I was frustrated in that she didn't look like what she posted on the site. I told her that I don't like it when people are not honest. However we ordered our dinner and I made the best of it.
A couple of days later she called me up on the phone and wanted to know if I wanted to get together again and I said, "no, I didn't think it would be a good idea." She asked me why, as if we never talked about the fact that she wasn't honest. She told me that she was upset and that I am obviously afraid of committment and obviously, "hate women." Although I am not currently looking to get involved in full blown relationship, I don't hate women. She made the comment, "you obviously have been hurt and need therapy." Actua
Now I am at Church the other day and one of her male friends approaches me and says, "Hey I am a friend of "so and so" and she really likes you. Why don't you want to go out with her again?"
Don't worry it is nobody from this site, and although the gal is a professing Christian, I was not physically attracted to her and I especially don't like it when people are just dishonest from the get go. What do I do. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but I don't want to go out with her again. I don't think that I need therapy because I don't want to go out with her again.
1) She misrepresented her appearance.
2) Try and remember that pictures generally lie. (Have you ever seen a good driver's license picture?) I'm willing to bet there's lots of pics of women that aren't their best and you'd be delighted to find out the woman looks 1000x better in real life! My point: don't assume anything by a pic.
3) Next time you meet on a F2F, if you don't want to see her again, thank her, tell her you don't think the two of you are a match, wish her a nice life, and move on. Then you won't find yourself faced with the awkward situation of her calling wanting to know why you don't want to see her again.
4) And no, you do not need therapy simply because you didn't find her attractive. Conversely, however, if she was attractive, pleasant, intelligent, and her perfume was mentally intoxicating and you don't want to see her again, THEN you might need therapy!