(Quote) Rachel-868336 said:
This is a topic I've always been curious about and this seems like a pretty appropriate venu...
(Quote) Rachel-868336 said:
This is a topic I've always been curious about and this seems like a pretty appropriate venue for this question:
Men, how would you feel if a woman came up to you and asked you out (assuming she was clearly not crazy and was doing so politely)?
Would you be aggravated that you couldn't beat her to punch? Would you feel awkward if you weren't interested?
As for me, I have no problem asking a guy out. If I like someone and there are indications he likes me, I'll just be straightforward and ask him if he would like to go grab some coffee. I don't like prolonged flirting or waiting around for him (I don't play games, in other words). My first serious relationship actually started by me asking him out, so I know it does work. I now have a better appreciation when a guy has the courage to ask me out. I think since I've gone through it, I'm much more caring and gentle about turning him down if I'm not interested because I know how nervewracking it is :)
I'm just curious what you all might think. I've heard many contrasting theories.
I promise I won't judge! Please be honest.
Don't do it! You'll mess up the whole time-space equilibrium.
It is an advantage that a woman holds that men have to ask her
out on a date. Men understand that they have to make an effort to impress a woman and then ask her out. Women know that a man who asks them out has at least some interest in a relationship. Furthermore, it is an advantage that women hold that they can refuse a date. A man who is rebuffed by a woman doesn't take it personally; it's usually done in good taste. Men understand that they can be turned down, and there are no hard feelings.
However, it is an advantage that a man holds that we can ask who we want on a date. A woman may be interested in a guy and may spend some time around him or be friendly to him in the hopes of being asked out on a date, but if the man isn't interested, she doesn't take it personally. She might tell her girlfriends that so and so has absolutely no interest in her, but she doesn't bear any ill-will to the man who is not interested in her. These things happen; attraction has to be mutual.
If a woman asks a guy out on a date, well, then she turned the whole thing upside down. A guy has to say yes, or else people will think he's homosexual or nuts. A woman can end up dating a man who was actually pursuing another woman; she probably isn't his first choice.
If you have an interest in a guy, smile at him, say hello, and address him by his name. (In other words, make yourself approachable.) If he has an interest in you, he will ask you out. If not, then so be it.