Thanks for sharing this perspective. I however do not share it.
Cooking is a life skill. Everyone who has ever cooked or baked something has burned something, forgot to add a key ingredient or tried a shortcut that didn't work. That doesn’t mean that they "can't cook" or that cooking is "beneath them". It is not "woman's work" either. Some of the most famous chefs are men, and most men I know are in complete command of their barbeques.
If you are truly uncomfortable in the kitchen, then I recommend going to the library and picking up a few basic cookbooks and spending some time experimenting. The classic "Betty Crocker" cookbooks are full of step-by-step pictures and the recipes are generally pretty easy to recreate. Some of the food companies also have recipe books where you can combine frozen prepared food or canned food with something fresh for a quick and easy meal.
Keeping the cooking surfaces clean and uncluttered, keeping an eye on the stovetop and properly handling meats (explained in the Betty Crocker books) will ensure that no one gets sick from the cooking and that nothing catches fire.
If you are unwilling to make these steps as an adult, that is your prerogative. However, the attitude that you will not be going out of your way to treat a gentleman to something that you have cooked because he can do it himself is as counterproductive as the attitudes of those men who believe that they don’t have to do anything polite for women (such as offer polite compliments, hold doors open, or offer to carry something heavy) because she can do it herself.
The point is not whether or not the person can do it for themselves, it whether you are willing to serve each other in married life. Just my
I don't have an issue serving a guy as long as he serves me. I have seen too many men who refuse to cook because "my wife will cook". Those men I avoid and will continue to avoid. If a man is judging me on whether I will cook for him he's not the one.