(Quote) John-666618 said:
When we were young, we all had visions of meeting our mate and growing old together. Some of us ev...
(Quote) John-666618 said:
When we were young, we all had visions of meeting our mate and growing old together. Some of us even met someone (or two or three), thinking we found “the one.” But surprise, surprise, here we all are.
When we were in our 20’s, 30’s and even 40‘s, our bodies had not changed much and we had youth and hormones to help us attract a mate. But a funny thing happened sometime in 50’s – it’s a little harder to keep the extra pounds off, things that never used to hurt, start to ache a little, our becomes a little grayer (or a little bit goner) and it is not quite as easy to attract a mate. Of course, I’M not getting older, but all of YOU are! At least that is how all of us like to see things, even though we know it is not true. (Of course, I’m still a sucker for a great smile – some things never change.) We and the kids in the singles room all imagined growing old together with that young, attractive, person that exists in their 30’s or 40’s. But that's not how it works and they many not even end up look as look as good as we do in their 50’s and 60’s
What do you all think? Can you look past the years, into the heart of that person you are about to meet for the first time and see the young kid who is still in there? Even though it is 30 or 40 years later, can you imagine growing old together - starting now?
Will I be able to see the youthful heart of an older gentlemen... It depends, not on my ability to see but on his ability to reveal himself.
Once when I was about 22, I was standing on a corner waiting to cross. I spotted an elderly couple sitting together on a bench. They were clearly a couple. I thought, "How beautiful... to be in love and to have grown old together." That is what I saw... I saw what appeared to be unconditional love.
Years ago, I was listening to my Granny who was in her ninties. She was an outgoing, friendly, fit woman who had out lived her husband by 29 years. Active until the end (at 93) she lived on the second floor of an apartment building which had 30 steps up to her place. That was her preference.. she wanted a view. I knew much of her life story... the good, the bad and the ugly. But that day, as I listened to her again, I saw her spirit. I saw the 17 year old girl she had been. It was refreshing..endearing and instructive.
When I found myself on the road toward divorce and annulment... her example of confidence in God, her joy, her honesty about loneliness and moments of despair (because most of her generation had passed away.....and she wondered why God left her behind). Her example gave me the inspiration to face my difficulties with courage.
I hope that if I meet a man whom I can respect and I feel affection toward that he is willing to reveal his youthful spirit.