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The story of Abraham and Sarah is told in chapters 11-25 of the book of Genesis.
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I think being attracted to someone physically is very important part of the marriage and to deny that it's not important means you're just kidding yourself and there is a spiritual attraction that's just as important. We can all physically fall in love but without the Holy Spirit what do you really have? To become one flesh, one spirit, a complete package as you say. TOB 101, right?
Now if we could only do something about the zip codes
Attraction is crucial, period. However, it is not purely physical, nor is it purely spiritual. It is a combination of these.
Speaking from experience, I doubt seriously that someone's kissing ability could make or break the overall attraction. Without getting too graphic (and causing anyone to faint), I will say that have encountered many different levels of kissing ability, but never any so poor as to cause me to break off the relationship. If the overall attraction is there, we can implement a KIS (Kissing Improvement Strategy) and get things going nicely.
Fortunately, I have a 12th degree blackbelt in kissing, so I can provide this instruction. Be sure to ask about our discounts.
God Bless !
It's also very mental (as well as physical and spiritual). If there is discord, there probably won't be TRUE attraction, at least with me. My mind needs to be at peace.
As far as the 12th degree blackbelt in kissing:
I was one of those people who thought that physical attraction wasn't very important at our age. Changed my mind... Experience taught me different. And, I was very pleasantly surprised...and that's an understatement!
Couldn't have happened to a nicer lady!!! So happy for you Laurie!!!
I'll just be blunt.. I couldn't sleep with someone I wasn't attracted to.. I can't kiss somebody I'm not attracted to.. My last relationship was in 2009. The man I dated was very good to me, but I wasn't physically attracted to him and I didn't like the way he kissed.. People try to say that you can grow into kissing.. Uhhh..Noooo.. It's either there or it's not.. If it's not, it's never going to be. I didn't date for so many years and I had convinced myself that companionship was enough, in the end I found it wasn't.
I have heard this question many times on CM. How do you feel about the question ? I think the person requires the whole package. How do you feel ?
Questions or comments... opinions perhaps ?
Marriage has to be to someone I love and am physically attracted to--and vice versa. Physical attraction is only PART of the equation though. There has to be a whole lot more than that---BUT it IS part of it... I don't understand people talking about just meeting a good man and marrying him.... Yeah---I would want a good man I am attracted to. A good man I am NOT attracted to would be a good friend.. (not a husband.)...