Thank you, Pat for posting such a beautiful testimony. I believe it is what we all hope for but somehow seems like a dream that couldn't possibly exist.
We live in a society that looks down on marriage, men and faith. It characterizes husbands as buffoons, dolts, egoists. Take, for example, Homer Simpson, Ed Bundy or Jim from According to Jim. These men are indecisive, deceptive, lacking and care only for their own needs. We laugh because its funny or maybe even familiar to what we saw growing up but, the reality is, its not funny. It is disrespectful and shows how poorly society views men and/or marriage, generally speaking, of course. And what purpose do these portrayals serve? Are they merely entertainment for the masses because no one cares about the messages conveyed?
I cant' forget a conversation I overheard at work one day. A female co-worker was talking openly with another female about her husband. "He's so stupid", she went on to say, because he did (this) wrong. He doesn't have a clue about (that). "He's such an idiot". This man she spoke of is the one she chose to have children with. He is also the one who will teach his daughters what a man is so that they could grow up and marry someone "just like dad". To berate him so openly at work makes me wonder how she treats him at home and what effect it will have on their girls. Since I wasn't invited into the conversation, I held my tongue but my thought was - if HE is an idiot and YOU chose him, what does that make you?
When I left my last unhealthy relationship, I prayed for the man God had destined for me. And I continue to pray for him - that he will be Godly, that he would be healthy and that he would love me as Christ loves his church. That's a pretty tall order, especially for a girl like me who has spent a lifetime settling for less than. But as the daughter of the King, I know now that I deserve more than what I settled for. And when the time is right, we will both step out of the refiner's fire and into His light.