(Quote) John-666618 said:
Let's be a little realistic. The older we get (remember which room we are in), the bigger deal...
(Quote) John-666618 said:
Let's be a little realistic. The older we get (remember which room we are in), the bigger deal the age difference becomes. When my sister was 28, she married a 43 year old. He was in great shape, very active, and the age difference really was no big deal. At 40, her husband was 55, offered early retirement from a major corporation and she retired too. He was ready to slow down, but she was only 40. But they are in love, so it worked. At 50, he was 65 and starting to get major health issues. Now she's in her late 50's and he is nearing mid 70's with emphysema, on oxygen and needs a scooter to get around. She looks and acts way older than I do, mostly because she is dealing with geriatric issues that someone our age does not normally deal with.
It's nice to speak in ideal terms, and I know that we need to be open to God's will. But, shouldn't we put ourselves in a position where God can help us find happiness? Talking about + or - 3 to 5 years is fine. I know everyone's genetics are different, my great grandmother made it to 110. But c'mon! 15 to 20 years older at our age? I know this will upset some people, but statistically speaking, if I dated a woman 20 years older than me, well, let's just say that I should keep my CM membership current.
I was 27 years old in 1972 and teaching accounting in college, three 17-years old students would leave love notes on my table. I shove them as teenage flings. In 2008 (I moved to the US in 1986), when I went back to visit my country I met one of them. Believe me, he looked very much older than me at 53, I was 63. He said after graduation he went to Saudi Arabia for money, came back rich in 1986. He said the first thing he did when he came back was to find me. At this time I was already here in the US. He gave up looking for me and got married in 1996. he was 41. I think youth is genetic.(If you would see my profile album). The second husband of my 77 years old sister is 14 years younger. They've been married for 24 years. My daughter now 37 has a boyfriend who is 25, and they look like they have the same age. I had a boyfriend 9 years younger, I was his first love. We found each other on Facebook in 2009, he said he still loves me. He is married and I don't have any intention of breaking their marriage. In his current picture at 58, he looks older than me. I guess men age faster than women.