I have been amazed that so many younger men have asked me out. Some even younger than my sons, and to that I say no-way. I have dated some younger men, but not more than 5 years. I have come up with this theory that all of the older man have taken all of the young women so the young men have to resort to older women. Seriously though since I have started dating again I have dated more younger men than I have older.
There is a very well known (successful business) local woman, probably in her late 70's who "dates" young men in their 20's. THAT's an example of a cougar. NOT illegal, NOT 5 - 7 years her junior.
CM success stories have women marrying men 7 years younger.
Somehow I don't think Pat considers herself a cougar with Dan 7 years younger..
I don't know of and when this subject has been discussed before. Often one reads and hears about that men seek younger women for different reasons.
But how do you think about the fact that there are men who are attracted to elder women. What is it that those women have? What makes them so attractive to men younger to them?
I know quite a few couples where the woman is older than the man and they are doing very well.
Would that be also a possibility for you? Had you yourself experienced that maybe before or want to share your thoughts?
Thank you! Andrea
Relationship experience is what I would attribute to this sort of attraction.
ok ladies, I actually like to know how many of you actually CONTACT men younger than you?
Gentlemen, how many women do you really actively contact who are older to you?
I mean you go every so often cruising through the profiles and see an attractive man/woman who is younger/older to you. Do you sit down and write him or her a mail or emo (which is not just blank)?
Andrea, you'd need to define younger. To me, younger just means anybody younger than yourself. However, I think what you mean is A LOT YOUNGER than yourself. I do not contact any men a lot younger than me and I am not interested in a relationship with one. I've been contacted with men 20 years younger than me on this site and that's just too young for comfort for me.
there's not always good reasons:
1. many older women are not eager to marry.
2. most older women are not desperate (even able) to conceive a child.
3. many older women are mature and grounded. they can handle a relationship better than a younger women - especially if it's a non-committed physical/sexual relationship.
4. many older women are frustrated with the inability of men their age to perform sexually and therefore welcome the attentions of more virile younger men.
5. older women are wiser, smarter, and better in bed.
Some of your assertions are very gutsy, David. I like it and I agree with most of them.