I'll start a new thread on it. . . . because I have an interesting element to share about it. . .
Count me in.
Wow! My mom has never discussed weddings with me. I think she knows I'm whatever when it comes to stuff like this. I'm the one who decided to buy a house and then bought a house basically 5 weeks later (yes, I'm meaning the act of sale!). I think she fears I might do that and elope!
Just out of curiosity, David. Did you ask her dad for his blessing?
Prepping for the next thread: Is a honeymoon necessary? Is its purpose these days different from what it used to be? Isn't it just a vacation?
Does receiving gifts make you feel more loved, Lynn?
We tend to show our love through the ways WE like to be shown it. For instance, I hug my son a lot, because that's a primary love language for me...and good thing it's one of his, too! But what's important is that we show love to the other by how that other feels loved. If I hugged my son a lot because I love him, but his primary love language was Words of Affirmation and I didn't tell him, "Good job! You tackled that problem well! Wow, you played that piece of music so beautifully!", then he would not feel love from me the way that it's most meaningful to him. I could hug him all I want, but he'd always feel a lack somewhere inside.
So, Lynn, if you find a woman whose Love Language is also Gifts, then that big rock on her finger will really mean a lot!
But if Gifts was last on her Love Language List, and, say, Acts of Service were most important to her, then being a man who pitched in around the house would make her feel like a queen. Lacking that, a big rock on her finger would only serve to mock. Even though giving that expensive ring would mean a great deal for you, Lynn, it would be an even greater show of love on your part if you sacrificed giving her what pleases you and gave, instead, what meant most to her. But you knew that.