(Quote) Lynn-189934 said:
Its lamented we talked about the ring so much on the other thread, and since I contributed greatly...
(Quote) Lynn-189934 said:
Its lamented we talked about the ring so much on the other thread, and since I contributed greatly to the de-railing. . . As some of you saw, I'm annoyed by the employee of mine who is OVER planning everything, very extravagantly. My board chair, a friend, shared that her nieces (two in the family) were each offered 10k for whatever they wanted to do with it. . . one, whose husband already owned a home that came with mostly new appliances, went on a nice, long trip with her husband for the honeymoon and they did an anniversary trip with the leftover money; the wedding was pretty simple with minimal attendants, and cousins catered the meal with soups (it was January).
The other daughter had a simple wedding, in the early afternoon so no meal was necessary, just a cake reception, had a beach honeymoon, and then she and her husband had a lot of money to remodel a house they bought.
Not all children receive such large gifts of money, but when it is undesignated, look how even the brides choose to celebrate---a trip or a house. . . .
Quite honestly, I would think a nice, warm, pleasant US destination would be nice for a week honeymoon, and a longer trip, like the UK or the tropics, would be great later that first year. . . .
What do y'all think?
From what I have heard, about $40k is an average wedding, and some middle class people spend in the range of $60k. If I ever get married, I'll have to pay for it myself, or at least that's what I'm assuming. I bought my own 2400 sq. ft. (living area) home on my own, in addition to all of the furniture and everything else to fill the place, so I'm pretty sure I don't need anything else! I do know people who have basically had weddings to get gifts. I know some places are like $40 a head, and others are $75 a head. I have never given a $75 gift, so I don't see how this makes sense. But, in many cases, the parents are paying for the wedding, and the couple is getting the gifts... so, they are getting the gifts for free. However, if the couple paid for the wedding, they wouldn't come ahead in gifts. I'm a very practical person. I like nice things, but I'm a bargain shopper and also use coupons without shame. I just can't see having a big wedding. Even just spending $10k on a wedding would make me cringe. I don't do credit card debt or loans. However, I no longer have $10k sitting in the bank like I did before I bought a house. Actually, if I did, I can't see depleting that just so I could have a wedding. I'd much rather have a nice honeymoon. Honestly, a wedding would pretty much stress me out because I'm too Type A. lol