Yes, we were told by our mothers that "Girls do not call boys." TRUE! Do you think I listened? No. I am glad for the way I walked all over that. I am wondering were all the ladies here taught this from mom? Is it a Catholic way of seeing dating?
What were the men here taught from mom in this regard? Lets' discuss. I may try to reply to the last several comments in the locked thread too...
You know, I was taught that too Marian and I really don't have a problem with that. I would prefer that initially, the gentleman take the lead and call me first. I have called men first on previous occasions, but it felt odd.
Many of the mothers who taught us this custom wanted to instill respect in us. They wanted us to respect and value ourselves while reminding us that men should take a lead in a relationship. God bless mothers!
Yes. It is mothers who teach respect. God Bless Mothers.
And you know Marian, that advice to allow boys/men to initiate calls, is also associated with our mothers' teachings to refrain from inappropriate sexual behavior prior to marriage, i.e. pre-marital sex. What our mothers were doing (and what many still do) is laying the foundation for their daughters to distinguish between appropriate and inappropriate behavior.
Because sexual sin is among the most vile, these mothers weren't just telling us to refrain from pre-marital relations, they were instilling that respect in us for ourselves and for God. Sexual sin is unlike many other offenses because it tends to have a huge ripple effect in society. It is an especially heinous sin that pains the soul greatly. Our dear moms were trying to raise their daughters in the light of God.
Excellent post Maia!