As Donna is saying and especially Leon and Ray also mentioned it is great of you and a heroic act, but I think that no one from this dating site has chosen to be a single parent. IT IS TOUGH! You not only have to be mother, but also overtake the paternal role and be a friend as well.
Since about 12 years I raise my children on my own and did so even within the partnership of their father who I stayed with for more than 25 years. During that time my parents had been a great help. But since 2000 I am all alone on the bringing up part. In this time my boys were 11 and 6 and I deliberately choose not to date in that time but be there for them only, besides my job and besides the fact that the thought of a new man was a "no go" for me - not my vocation in that time.
Today my boys are 23 and almost 17 and I think I did a pretty good job - thanks to God ! Parent one is forever ...
Parenting is the hardest job you will ever love. I am a single mom to a six and a half year old boy. You can make it work if you have the right balance of a healthy routine, strong support system (very very key) and an endless amount of energy and love. Being an excellent multi-tasker is essential.
Are you ready to be nurse, doctor, teacher, chef, babysitter, taxi driver, money machine, maid, mental and spiritual counselor, referee, social director, disciplarian, trainer, etc??? Are you ready to do this 24/7? Are you ready to do this on top of cleaning the house, cooking the meals, keeping up the yard, paying the bills, etc and working full time which in itself demands so much from you? These are hard questions and there is no easy answer. For a single parent, many of your days will be overwhelming and daunting. You will not fully understand how hard those things are until you live that everyday. However, anything is possible with God’s grace and blessing. I live each day in the moment and try to simplify our lives as much as possible. You just really need to weigh your pro’s and con’s list very carefully in your decision.
I will also tell you that I could not do this if I did not have the wonderful support system in my mom and my family. They allow me to take a break every once in awhile and re-energize myself, allow me to vent when needed and to help guide me with my decisions in raising him, etc. They have become my partner. If you have this in place, you can make anything work.
Sometimes at the end of the day, I wonder how did I ever get through this one? Then I go in and kiss the top of my little boy’s forehead goodnight, and realize ‘we did good today’. His unconditional love is what sustains me and makes it ALL worthwhile.