So, a question for all...
What are your thoughts on a single woman in her mid-30s taking in foster children or possibly adopting children?
I ask because I am praying about it. I have a strong motherhood drive and would like children. Making every effort to live my faith, obviously, I will not be having biological children unless I marry. If marriage is not in a woman's future, yet she desires motherhood, should/could she be open to fostering or adopting? (Given, of course, that she is finacially stable and has family/community to help her as needed.) Thoughts? I would love to know what older men and women, especially parents, think about this. Would doing this in the future effectively "take me off the marriage market"?
Desiring motherhood is only natural.
However, it is not natural to a human being to have children outside of the moral order established by God in the beginning. It doesn't matter if you adopt them or beget them.
Fostering children is something else, I think, as long as it is a temporary situation due to extenuating circumstances, since it could fall under a corporal work of mercy.
The fact is, that single motherhood, no matter the source of the children, sets the mother up as the head of the household, which is contrary to the moral order presented in Catholic doctrine. I also believe strongly that if you adopt children before marriage, you have taken yourself off the market by saying basically you do not need any man in order to live the life you want to live, since you can procure all the children you desire without him.