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Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.

Tobias and Sarah's story is from the Book of Tobit, and his journey is guided by Saint Raphael.
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Sep 25th 2012 new

First of all Christiane please accept my sincere sympathy. The loss of your husband is great, but I believe as you do God has a plan for all of us.

Happiness will come to you although it is difficult to imagine it will at this time. If you truly believe in Christ he will be there for you.

I also believe as you do that soul mates aren't just for dreamers and fairytales. There are people who we totally connect with on all levels. There is no conscious effort to connect or love it just happens. Some of us are fortunate to find that someone like you did. Some of us find that someone and because of situations, conditions and decisions that we make, the total committment never comes to fruition.

You may feel great loss now but consider yourself lucky to have been with your soul mate. You have known true love and through that love God has given you the gifts of two beautiful chidren. Thank you for sharing your story.

Oct 3rd 2012 new

(Quote) Casey-637092 said: Lets be real here!Finding a friend here on CM is a snap if you are non judgemental , and ...
(Quote) Casey-637092 said:

Lets be real here!

Finding a friend here on CM is a snap if you are non judgemental , and willing to go all in with someone you are drawn to after reading their profile, viewing their Pic's and initializing or responding to the first emote or message!

The start of any relationship is a decision. Dont play games. When is the last time you read someones profile. trusted that first gut feeling, contacted them . letting them know you liked what you read and would like to devote time to loving the other , with the goal in mind of having your heart captured as well. Commit to the process,

Successful relationships are about you , not the person whom you are "looking for". Are you ready to give from your heart to find out if the person you like is who they says he/ her is in their profile.

It starts with us . The right attitude, right perspective , right heart , right goals and right spirit, make relationships a breeze, for after the initial attraction, we should enter into them with a heart of service , ready to give , ready to discover if our mate of choice , has the same heart of unselfishness.

If you want Mr/ Mrs perfect right out of the gate , you are a dreamer. Once you make a decision , from there ,you either go all in and be the friend you are looking for, or continue to sit on the fence to see what happens. Love is a decision , not a feeling and not an investment into your own future, but rather ,a daily random act of kindness to be accepting , edifying , generous and compassionate.

Decide to love ,and be happy with the person of your choice or stay on the sidelines and remain unhappy and alone. Its up to us.
Relationships are about a willingness to reach out, take calculated risks, choose to love and be receptive to the echo. Its not rocket science !

Its about unconditional acceptance without judgement , throw in a little chemistry , shake well and enjoy. What a recipe.

Soul mates are for dreamers and fairy tales! You can choose to love anyone you want,and if its reciprocal , build a life together, its just a question of how self centered and choosy we insist on being, or how selfless and life sharing we want to be.

Is it all about you getting your needs met ,or about being of service to someone else. Are you concerned about settling for less ,than whats out there? Good grief .What is better than being in love! Is one couple in love ,happier than the next . I think not . Love is built on trust and takes time to solidify, but let not this fact discourage us from reaching out in Love , to see what grows. Nothing ventured nothing gained

The sure way to crop failure is to fail to plant the seeds!

We must become what we want to attract !!! Give love a try , pleasant surprises await you!
Are you the person who watch's what happens, wonder what happens, or the person that makes it happen. Good question for all of us to ponder.
We are all the same , different only by the external wrapping paper. The gift is on the inside. That being a heart that is at peace ,content and satisfied by having its craving to give and receive love met Pretty simple really.

For it is more blessed to give than to receive. Lets truly live by this Motto! Be your own soul mate, then your ready to date !!!

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clap clap clap THANK YOU!!! Truer words were never posted. Let's pray that people read them and give it some serious thought.


In response to Jerry's quip about the absence of God in your post, you were right to respond that love (unconditional, self-sacrificing, and trusting love) is the keyword for God. I saw God woven all through your post. Thanks again for sharing your wise insight. let's hope it doesn't fall on willfully shut eyes and stone cold hearts.

Oct 3rd 2012 new

Great words of advice Caseyclap

The only thing that I would like to add is: love is NOT about a feeling. Love is a choice that we make, and we choose to give it as a gift.

Jan 30th 2013 new
(Quote) Casey-637092 said: Lets be real here!Finding a friend here on CM is a snap if you are non judgemental , and willing to go ...
(Quote) Casey-637092 said:

Lets be real here!

Finding a friend here on CM is a snap if you are non judgemental , and willing to go all in with someone you are drawn to after reading their profile, viewing their Pic's and initializing or responding to the first emote or message!

The start of any relationship is a decision. Dont play games. When is the last time you read someones profile. trusted that first gut feeling, contacted them . letting them know you liked what you read and would like to devote time to loving the other , with the goal in mind of having your heart captured as well. Commit to the process,

Successful relationships are about you , not the person whom you are "looking for". Are you ready to give from your heart to find out if the person you like is who they says he/ her is in their profile.

It starts with us . The right attitude, right perspective , right heart , right goals and right spirit, make relationships a breeze, for after the initial attraction, we should enter into them with a heart of service , ready to give , ready to discover if our mate of choice , has the same heart of unselfishness.

If you want Mr/ Mrs perfect right out of the gate , you are a dreamer. Once you make a decision , from there ,you either go all in and be the friend you are looking for, or continue to sit on the fence to see what happens. Love is a decision , not a feeling and not an investment into your own future, but rather ,a daily random act of kindness to be accepting , edifying , generous and compassionate.

Decide to love ,and be happy with the person of your choice or stay on the sidelines and remain unhappy and alone. Its up to us.
Relationships are about a willingness to reach out, take calculated risks, choose to love and be receptive to the echo. Its not rocket science !

Its about unconditional acceptance without judgement , throw in a little chemistry , shake well and enjoy. What a recipe.

Soul mates are for dreamers and fairy tales! You can choose to love anyone you want,and if its reciprocal , build a life together, its just a question of how self centered and choosy we insist on being, or how selfless and life sharing we want to be.

Is it all about you getting your needs met ,or about being of service to someone else. Are you concerned about settling for less ,than whats out there? Good grief .What is better than being in love! Is one couple in love ,happier than the next . I think not . Love is built on trust and takes time to solidify, but let not this fact discourage us from reaching out in Love , to see what grows. Nothing ventured nothing gained

The sure way to crop failure is to fail to plant the seeds!

We must become what we want to attract !!! Give love a try , pleasant surprises await you!
Are you the person who watch's what happens, wonder what happens, or the person that makes it happen. Good question for all of us to ponder.
We are all the same , different only by the external wrapping paper. The gift is on the inside. That being a heart that is at peace ,content and satisfied by having its craving to give and receive love met Pretty simple really.

For it is more blessed to give than to receive. Lets truly live by this Motto! Be your own soul mate, then your ready to date !!!

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Wonderful stuff here Casey thank you. smile I can feel the reflection of God through every word in your post.

At the end we should not be looking to find the right person but to create the right relationship!

You said "Soul mates are for dreamers and fairy tales!" You are right for the way so many seek soul mates, BUT you also said:

"Its about unconditional acceptance without judgement , throw in a little chemistry , shake well and enjoy. What a recipe"

Isn't this recipe what creates soul mates? wink
Jan 30th 2013 new

Great post!!


The term "soul mate" if I understand correctly, is derived from the vocation mentality. Your vocation of marriage under God's Will is to help your mate attain Heaven, and receive that same help. It's about the soul, not the body, or the emotions.


I think the term has been twisted out of recognition. Now people think the term "soul mate" is all about warm fuzzy feelings rather than that elusive (for many) connection between two people, positive they are following their joint vocation--to be saints.


You're right on the money about the action and decision thing, Casey. I must say, when two people understand the concept of SERVICE and true, self-giving love, everything seems to fall into place.



Jan 30th 2013 new

That's why I am reading the book "The Love Dare". Not only does it teach you about unconditional love it also helps to inspire you when the person you love does not, or will not return that love.

Jan 30th 2013 new

(Quote) Casey-637092 said: Lets be real here!Finding a friend here on CM is a snap if you are non judgemental , and ...
(Quote) Casey-637092 said:

Lets be real here!

Finding a friend here on CM is a snap if you are non judgemental , and willing to go all in with someone you are drawn to after reading their profile, viewing their Pic's and initializing or responding to the first emote or message!

The start of any relationship is a decision. Dont play games. When is the last time you read someones profile. trusted that first gut feeling, contacted them . letting them know you liked what you read and would like to devote time to loving the other , with the goal in mind of having your heart captured as well. Commit to the process,

Successful relationships are about you , not the person whom you are "looking for". Are you ready to give from your heart to find out if the person you like is who they says he/ her is in their profile.

It starts with us . The right attitude, right perspective , right heart , right goals and right spirit, make relationships a breeze, for after the initial attraction, we should enter into them with a heart of service , ready to give , ready to discover if our mate of choice , has the same heart of unselfishness.

If you want Mr/ Mrs perfect right out of the gate , you are a dreamer. Once you make a decision , from there ,you either go all in and be the friend you are looking for, or continue to sit on the fence to see what happens. Love is a decision , not a feeling and not an investment into your own future, but rather ,a daily random act of kindness to be accepting , edifying , generous and compassionate.

Decide to love ,and be happy with the person of your choice or stay on the sidelines and remain unhappy and alone. Its up to us.
Relationships are about a willingness to reach out, take calculated risks, choose to love and be receptive to the echo. Its not rocket science !

Its about unconditional acceptance without judgement , throw in a little chemistry , shake well and enjoy. What a recipe.

Soul mates are for dreamers and fairy tales! You can choose to love anyone you want,and if its reciprocal , build a life together, its just a question of how self centered and choosy we insist on being, or how selfless and life sharing we want to be.

Is it all about you getting your needs met ,or about being of service to someone else. Are you concerned about settling for less ,than whats out there? Good grief .What is better than being in love! Is one couple in love ,happier than the next . I think not . Love is built on trust and takes time to solidify, but let not this fact discourage us from reaching out in Love , to see what grows. Nothing ventured nothing gained

The sure way to crop failure is to fail to plant the seeds!

We must become what we want to attract !!! Give love a try , pleasant surprises await you!
Are you the person who watch's what happens, wonder what happens, or the person that makes it happen. Good question for all of us to ponder.
We are all the same , different only by the external wrapping paper. The gift is on the inside. That being a heart that is at peace ,content and satisfied by having its craving to give and receive love met Pretty simple really.

For it is more blessed to give than to receive. Lets truly live by this Motto! Be your own soul mate, then your ready to date !!!

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"Its about unconditional acceptance without judgement , throw in a little chemistry , shake well and enjoy. What a recipe...."


Amen to this, Casey! Let go and let God! Thanks for sharing your beautiful thoughts. Praying rosary theheart

Jan 30th 2013 new

(Quote) Casey-637092 said: Lets be real here!Finding a friend here on CM is a snap if you are non judgemental , and ...
(Quote) Casey-637092 said:

Lets be real here!

Finding a friend here on CM is a snap if you are non judgemental , and willing to go all in with someone you are drawn to after reading their profile, viewing their Pic's and initializing or responding to the first emote or message!

The start of any relationship is a decision. Dont play games. When is the last time you read someones profile. trusted that first gut feeling, contacted them . letting them know you liked what you read and would like to devote time to loving the other , with the goal in mind of having your heart captured as well. Commit to the process,

Successful relationships are about you , not the person whom you are "looking for". Are you ready to give from your heart to find out if the person you like is who they says he/ her is in their profile.

It starts with us . The right attitude, right perspective , right heart , right goals and right spirit, make relationships a breeze, for after the initial attraction, we should enter into them with a heart of service , ready to give , ready to discover if our mate of choice , has the same heart of unselfishness.

If you want Mr/ Mrs perfect right out of the gate , you are a dreamer. Once you make a decision , from there ,you either go all in and be the friend you are looking for, or continue to sit on the fence to see what happens. Love is a decision , not a feeling and not an investment into your own future, but rather ,a daily random act of kindness to be accepting , edifying , generous and compassionate.

Decide to love ,and be happy with the person of your choice or stay on the sidelines and remain unhappy and alone. Its up to us.
Relationships are about a willingness to reach out, take calculated risks, choose to love and be receptive to the echo. Its not rocket science !

Its about unconditional acceptance without judgement , throw in a little chemistry , shake well and enjoy. What a recipe.

Soul mates are for dreamers and fairy tales! You can choose to love anyone you want,and if its reciprocal , build a life together, its just a question of how self centered and choosy we insist on being, or how selfless and life sharing we want to be.

Is it all about you getting your needs met ,or about being of service to someone else. Are you concerned about settling for less ,than whats out there? Good grief .What is better than being in love! Is one couple in love ,happier than the next . I think not . Love is built on trust and takes time to solidify, but let not this fact discourage us from reaching out in Love , to see what grows. Nothing ventured nothing gained

The sure way to crop failure is to fail to plant the seeds!

We must become what we want to attract !!! Give love a try , pleasant surprises await you!
Are you the person who watch's what happens, wonder what happens, or the person that makes it happen. Good question for all of us to ponder.
We are all the same , different only by the external wrapping paper. The gift is on the inside. That being a heart that is at peace ,content and satisfied by having its craving to give and receive love met Pretty simple really.

For it is more blessed to give than to receive. Lets truly live by this Motto! Be your own soul mate, then your ready to date !!!

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Casey, this is very insightful. And contrary to one moderator's comment, I totally see God in your post. I don't think GOD need to be spelled out point blank each time!

Jan 30th 2013 new

(Quote) Kahirup-898887 said: Casey, this is very insightful. And contrary to one moderator's comment, I totally see God ...
(Quote) Kahirup-898887 said:

Casey, this is very insightful. And contrary to one moderator's comment, I totally see God in your post. I don't think GOD need to be spelled out point blank each time!

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Shouldn't that be 'the moderators comment'.. 'cause this other moderator didn't post in here til now.. wink laughing



Jan 30th 2013 new

(Quote) Donna-83441 said: Shouldn't that be 'the moderators comment'.. 'cause ...
(Quote) Donna-83441 said:


Shouldn't that be 'the moderators comment'.. 'cause this other moderator didn't post in here til now..



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Donna, you know what I meant wink

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