I am wondering if low self esteem can ultimately keep you from finding "the one" or even scare them off. In the past 3 years I have had major weight gain and my self esteem has plummeted. I am currently on the right track in correcting this. First and foremost by making my relationship with God better. Is it premature of me to be looking for a mate while going through such an issue or should I work my way through the issue and build my confidence up then find a mate? I guess in this case friendship will be more suitable( i may have answered my own question). Interested in what you guys have to say.
There's NOT one person who has posted here who should have self-esteem problems. They have shown themselves in the forums to have an excellent relationship with their Creator. As we all know, "God doesn't make no junk." We're created in His image. Tough to remember that occasionally, but it is true. Once people have built up a good spiritual foundation, other worldly matters fall into place.
You can certainly be thankful for your good qualities, which we hope you've thought about. What's good about yourself? Time to take inventory.
There will be others who relate their experiences and wisdom about how they overcame their problem. You would do well to re-read many of the excellent posts here to help lift your spirits.
By all means, let us know how you're doing. We'd like to hear about your progress, and continue to offer encouragement.