You generated an excellent list of questions. Most of those questions (not all of them since some are personal) can be developed into interview questions.
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Good question, Marian! I've been on both sides of this fence. I have spent time w/ men who after several hours of "conversation" knew absolutely nothing more about me than they did when we met, AND I've been grilled like the Spanish Inquisition. I actually had a man, after 3 hours of talking about himself with only a nod or uh-huh from me, tell me that I was really interesting. (Sorry guys, no disrespect intended!)
I would like to suggest that when you are communicating with someone new, and as things progress, BOTH men and women take the time to formulate a few questions about some topics you noted on their profiles or past conversations. These questions should be more of the "Tell me about the time you ____. "I noticed _____in your profile and I wondered how you felt about that." "Last time we spoke, you mentioned _____ and I have been thinking about it." Ask open-ended questions so the other cannot just give a yes/no answer. It's a process of discovery and it's important for discernment.
A word of warning for both sexes: if the other person is monopolizing the conversation without encouragement from you, consider this--they are nervous and feel the need to fill all spaces with words OR they are really more impressed with themselves than you are. Everyone deserves a second chance.
Hi Matt! Welcome to the CM forums! Glad to see you jumping in.
I don't think Marian was painting all men with the same brush. She posted a question which is open to discussion. This is the premise of the Fora. We try to be kind in our answers but honest and forthright. In my experience here, I rarely see a truly angry discussion (but then I don't spend any time in the political forum! )
As far as sexism, well..... the only point of view we have is our own. Women cannot know what men think or feel, and men cannot know what women think or feel, until we ask! We can only speak out of our own experiences which becomes reality for each of us.
That you find yourself "asking most of the questions," says to me you are a considerate young man and genuinely interested in the person with whom you share your time. It's very flattering to the young woman and to you! Hopefully they are asked in a form that says "I'm interested" and not "I'm interviewing." God bless you as you join our community!
I usually find myself asking the most questions in my conversations on CM or elsewhere.
Matt, I am glad you shared the above with us on this thread. If you do this, ask questions of your date, you have nothing to be concerned about. I wish more men (Specifically ones I have already not kept dating..after one or two dates..) would revisit this task and that was my goal in bringing up this topic.
My hope is that when people meet for that F2F they will let themselves engage in some mutual curiosity about one another and ask those questions.
I do not have any list in mind but I probably have a private list of things I wish men would ask me. I will contemplate this.
Is there anything you wish the ladies would ask you Matt?