(Quote) Theresa-722703 said: Okay I am getting that feeling again that I am wasting my time. I am 46 and both of my previous husban...
(Quote) Theresa-722703 said: Okay I am getting that feeling again that I am wasting my time. I am 46 and both of my previous husbands have passed away. Guys see that and run in the opposite direction. There are a couple who look further. Those couple see six year old child and they run.
Every so often I get the feeling that I am wasting my time. Don't say "There are plenty of guys out there who are in our age group and willing to start over." Oh did I mention that I will never be able to have any more children? Younger guys want more children, and we have little in common. Older guys I can talk to and relate to, they don't want kids.
I am just getting that feeling that I am wasting my time. Oh did I mention that I got the matched email? I emoted several of the guys and no answer. Same thing different day.
Seeing a person who has lost one husband at an early age can be disconcerting. It's not supposed to happen. But a second one? And still at a young age? This has been the subject of jokes (not in your specific case, but in general...), but when it actually happens in real life, it's just not funny.
Perhaps you're feeling a bit gun-shy having had this unfortunate event happen twice. It might be showing and that could be one of the possible reasons for your lack of responses. It could also involve an unintended superstition.
At your age, still young, but not able to have more children shouldn't be an obstacle to men your age or a little older. Having children might be a desire, but isn't mandatory, depending upon the Lord's will. I would think that there are plenty of men who would accept you just as you are.
You're on an online dating site. Your presence suggests at least some belief that something can come of it. It's a numbers game, as you probably already know. The more contacts you have, the better your odds are. Some people you've contacted might not be paying members; therefore, they cannot get back to you unless they pay the fare and join.
During your prayertime, ask our Good Lord to make His will be known to you. Perhaps He is allowing you sufficient time to truly recover from your losses. You may feel you are ready, but there might still be some lingering bit of grieving that has to be dealt with.
Patience and prayer are the key elements. And don't give up hope....