(Quote) David-364112 said:
Fear. Resentment. Selfishness. Lack of faith. These are the major impediments to human success an...
(Quote) David-364112 said:
Fear. Resentment. Selfishness. Lack of faith. These are the major impediments to human success and happiness.
Compounding the bad things listed above is the tendency among many of the lifelong unmarrieds as well as many bitter formerly marrieds to cloak their own personal dysfunctions in the armor of religion so that to attack their defects of character is to attack ALMIGHTY GOD himself. Many people who avoid a relationship (either consciously or subconsciously) fear something deep within themselves. Rather than face it and maybe work through it, they prefer to call it "holiness". While they certainly hold sincere beliefs and practice many genuine virtues, they use the faith as a bulwark against identifying and confronting their own personal defects. This is terribly sad. It's also a stunning abuse of religion.
OK people, pile on. I'll take my abuse off the air.
No abuse to pile on from me, David. What you say is true. Many adults fear something, a something which probably had its roots in childhood and which never was properly dealt with. And that injury was bandaged haphazardly, which led to a callus or scab. They don't know why they act or believe as they do, or maybe they DO know and feel their action or belief is justified. That comes from a narrow perspective, I think. Because if they risked broadening their perspective, looking at others and themselves from a different stance, they might not like what they see, see things they know they would have to deal with in a different way, CHANGE their attitudes or behaviors, which is hard work and takes time. Laziness is so much easier; our society keeps us busy. Add to that the fear of maybe being "wrong" (ego), and we have a lot of people walking around pointing fingers at others, forgetting that at the same time they do that, three fingers are pointing at themselves.
Sometimes we reflect what is within us; sometimes we reflect what we wish was in us.
Just as self-understanding takes effort, deepening our understanding of our faith/religion takes effort. Combine that with the various limitations each individual may have at any point in time, and you have a lot of people living below their means, so to speak. We're all climbing that ziggurat toward God; each has achieved steps higher or lower than where we are. Some above us might think that shouting directions to ones below is the way to help; some might actually bend down and extend a helpful hand up. Others may think that harsh words, ridicule or the like "help" others in the climb. Where they're mistaken is that they think they're on a step above. What actually happened is that they're standing on their head and up is down, down is up, and they are really below the others they're ridiculing.