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10/30/2012 new

Honestly, I tend to discuss it just like it is discussing any other normal part of life. I don't make it a special discussion. It's worked into daily conversation with both my 17 son and 9 year old daughter. My feeling is that it needs discussed often. Just like they need to be reminded to brush teeth or do chores, they may need a few hundred small discussions about sex. I feel like it makes them more secure in their knowledge, and it makes them feel not so awkward coming to me first to ask questions rather than going to some friend or other family member. I would not want a family member discussing sex with my kids, because they may believe something different, and I really want to make sure my kids come to me.

10/30/2012 new

(Quote) Liberacion-894835 said: I think Jerry, it has something to do with our culture, because I am not an American, and wh...
(Quote) Liberacion-894835 said:

I think Jerry, it has something to do with our culture, because I am not an American, and when I tell my story in this thread I was under the presumption that how we educate our children in their sexuality is something to be proud about. I raised two children who are open-minded about sex and they got that attitude from me. As to mortal sins being committed, what are the criteria for committing such? In my country you can still see young children bathing naked under the rain, was mortal sin committed by those people who saw them? Was it pornography? When my 24 year old son was in the hospital, he was semi-paralyzed. I was the one who gave him a bath. Was that shameful? Should I let the nurse do it instead of me? God's greatest gift to humanity was our sexuality. He has a beautiful plan for the man and woman he created, but when he took a rest, the devil taught Adam and Eve the lustful way of having sex. Had they waited for God to wake up, they still could have sex, but in the way God has intended it to be. It is just sad that we followed the devil's version. and here were are throwing stones.

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I think the fear is that it seemed like you were ok with the pornography since you kept it....we do have to educate our children as you say, but implying pornography is ok when it treats women like objects is not good ....pornography hurts children and women. I want my son to grow up to respect his wife first and foremost and know she isn't an object....God is the author of sex. He created sex but it is meant to be an intimate and a private part of the marriage.....not in a magazine. I do really appreciate your contribution and sharing....it is a big deal to take chances on a forum when we do so and I don't want you to feel that you shouldn't, and I was ok with most of your answer and am glad that you helped your son through illness. My concern is the pornography....grave sin aside, it objectifies women and hurts people so that someone can get rich while also promoting sin and sex as the objective rather than the bonding, etc....Catholic values if followed will help both the male and female to be happy and while the Church does believe in sex in marriage as you say it doesn't believe in it outside of marriage or in porn for very good reason....it harms. I want my son to be happy....I didn't have the fortune to have married someone who was raised right....I don't want to do that to him or his wife.

10/30/2012 new

(Quote) Celia-821539 said: Honestly, I tend to discuss it just like it is discussing any other normal part of life. I don...
(Quote) Celia-821539 said:

Honestly, I tend to discuss it just like it is discussing any other normal part of life. I don't make it a special discussion. It's worked into daily conversation with both my 17 son and 9 year old daughter. My feeling is that it needs discussed often. Just like they need to be reminded to brush teeth or do chores, they may need a few hundred small discussions about sex. I feel like it makes them more secure in their knowledge, and it makes them feel not so awkward coming to me first to ask questions rather than going to some friend or other family member. I would not want a family member discussing sex with my kids, because they may believe something different, and I really want to make sure my kids come to me.

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....well, that is the thing...it really doesn't come up in normal conversation....our conversations are about Pokeman, animals, kids stuff, etc....perhaps then he is still not being exposed at school by friends....that is my concern that he will start hearing it from elsewhere....he is only ten though, so I might be worrying too early.. I mean did you bring it up, did he...how did it come up? He does know a baby lives in his mom's womb...we discussed the hail Mary prayer....but he had no other questions. Also, I have always used correct anatomy when referencing cleaning.

10/30/2012 new

(Quote) Cheryl-409772 said: No Godfather....my relatives aren't Catholic. When he was baptized, a single female friend o...
(Quote) Cheryl-409772 said:

No Godfather....my relatives aren't Catholic. When he was baptized, a single female friend of mine was Godmother...she lives in TX.

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Sorry Cheryl, all I can offer is to offer some prayers for you hug

10/30/2012 new

(Quote) Cheryl-409772 said: I think the fear is that it seemed like you were ok with the pornography since you kept it....we...
(Quote) Cheryl-409772 said:

I think the fear is that it seemed like you were ok with the pornography since you kept it....we do have to educate our children as you say, but implying pornography is ok when it treats women like objects is not good ....pornography hurts children and women. I want my son to grow up to respect his wife first and foremost and know she isn't an object....God is the author of sex. He created sex but it is meant to be an intimate and a private part of the marriage.....not in a magazine. I do really appreciate your contribution and sharing....it is a big deal to take chances on a forum when we do so and I don't want you to feel that you shouldn't, and I was ok with most of your answer and am glad that you helped your son through illness. My concern is the pornography....grave sin aside, it objectifies women and hurts people so that someone can get rich while also promoting sin and sex as the objective rather than the bonding, etc....Catholic values if followed will help both the male and female to be happy and while the Church does believe in sex in marriage as you say it doesn't believe in it outside of marriage or in porn for very good reason....it harms. I want my son to be happy....I didn't have the fortune to have married someone who was raised right....I don't want to do that to him or his wife.

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Cheryl, there is always the right time to get into the world of your child particularly about sex. Just keep a watchful eyes. When I sat with my son holding the Playboy Magazine, it was like the whole evening talking to him about the repercussions of wrong information. I told him to run to me whenever there are things he wants to know about the opposite sex, because I am the opposite sex and very knowledgeable about it. And to continue my post, he was the one who threw away the magazines because he decided to just be focused on finishing his educatiopn. If there is a thread here about our children being exposed to "guns" I have a good sharing about it too and my son grew up never taking drugs, never date-rape and when he got a job bought a house, still a bachelor, and married the first woman he touched. He had friends who were doing credit cards scam, carjacking. street fighting, and others and I knew all about this because he always run to me and told me about them. The key element to educating our children about the FACTS OF LIFE is making ourselves believable to them, because there are parents that are having double standards - DO WHAT I SAY, DON'T DO WHAT I DO." Be firm in your rules - Don't say "YES" then suddenly change it to "NO" When I say "NO" is stays NO, no matter what and I mean it. The first thing I did was ask the HOLY SPIRIT to speak for me. My children are both Accountants, my boy just passed the CPA license, finished college with a Masters in Business Administration - Accounting and are working in Big Oil Companies here in Houston, my girl as a Financial Analyst and my boy as an Auditor and both of them have disabilities. They were healthy and normal when I gave birth to them but somewhere along the way they become disabled. My daughter lost her left leg from a malignant bone cancer when she was 10 years old, and my son had a brain surgery at 24 from aneurysm. Were they angry about it? No. They accept it. (read my post on Good News...Good Deeds)

10/30/2012 new

(Quote) Liberacion-894835 said: Cheryl, there is always the right time to get into the world of your child particularly abou...
(Quote) Liberacion-894835 said:

Cheryl, there is always the right time to get into the world of your child particularly about sex. Just keep a watchful eyes. When I sat with my son holding the Playboy Magazine, it was like the whole evening talking to him about the repercussions of wrong information. I told him to run to me whenever there are things he wants to know about the opposite sex, because I am the opposite sex and very knowledgeable about it. And to continue my post, he was the one who threw away the magazines because he decided to just be focused on finishing his educatiopn. If there is a thread here about our children being exposed to "guns" I have a good sharing about it too and my son grew up never taking drugs, never date-rape and when he got a job bought a house, still a bachelor, and married the first woman he touched. He had friends who were doing credit cards scam, carjacking. street fighting, and others and I knew all about this because he always run to me and told me about them. The key element to educating our children about the FACTS OF LIFE is making ourselves believable to them, because there are parents that are having double standards - DO WHAT I SAY, DON'T DO WHAT I DO." Be firm in your rules - Don't say "YES" then suddenly change it to "NO" When I say "NO" is stays NO, no matter what and I mean it. The first thing I did was ask the HOLY SPIRIT to speak for me. My children are both Accountants, my boy just passed the CPA license, finished college with a Masters in Business Administration - Accounting and are working in Big Oil Companies here in Houston, my girl as a Financial Analyst and my boy as an Auditor and both of them have disabilities. They were healthy and normal when I gave birth to them but somewhere along the way they become disabled. My daughter lost her left leg from a malignant bone cancer when she was 10 years old, and my son had a brain surgery at 24 from aneurysm. Were they angry about it? No. They accept it. (read my post on Good News...Good Deeds)

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I'm so glad they had you to be there with them through it all....I can't imagine.

10/30/2012 new

(Quote) Daniel-634934 said: Sorry Cheryl, all I can offer is to offer some prayers for you
(Quote) Daniel-634934 said:

Sorry Cheryl, all I can offer is to offer some prayers for you

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Well, prayers is good thank you....I definitely need them as a single parent. I'm open for advice too though on whether to bring it up or wait.....

10/30/2012 new

Hi Cheryl,

We teach the Catholic Vision of Love in the church. It is geared for each age group. You can call your parish and get some other information on this. I am CVOL certified, and each year it is taught for each grade level. This year they are involing the parents more and they are participating with this program.

Here is some information to get you started. I went down to grade 5, a PDF is there or you can look over all the others too.


www.diopitt.org

10/30/2012 new

(Quote) Cheryl-409772 said: I'm so glad they had you to be there with them through it all....I can't imagine.
(Quote) Cheryl-409772 said:

I'm so glad they had you to be there with them through it all....I can't imagine.

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Cheryl, your concern is a good sign. You will not be alone. The Holy Spirit will be there with you if you ask Him. My situation was like being a single Mom because my ex-husband, although he was there was making his own bubble. When you have time, buy the 9-day Novena to the Holy Spirit and do it every month. This is my prayer schedule for the whole month First 9 days to the Holy Spirit, second 9 days to Divine Mercy, and the remaining The Holy Rosary. During our Confirmation Rite, we become soldiers of God. The Holy Spirit gives us 7 gifts such as: WISDOM, UNDERSTANDING, COUNSEL,FORTITUDE, KNOWLEDGE, PIETY, and FEAR OF THE LORD to use in our fight against the evils of the world; use them. There is also a 9-day novena for Divine Mercy, this is to ask God's Mercy and Compassion, and the Holy Rosary to ask our Mother Mary that we will be like her. What would you feel if you see your own son carrying a heavy cross walking towards his death and you can't do anything? What would you feel if you see your son being crucified naked before a large crowd? (Note: Jesus was exposed to the crowd naked, but the church would not do that thus he is partially covered. It was their way of humiliating a person) Mother Mary give us the example of how it is to be a mother. And to add the word of Pope John Paul II "DO NOT BE AFRAID"

10/30/2012 new

(Quote) Cindy-534370 said: Hi Cheryl, We teach the Catholic Vision of Love in the church. It is geared for each age ...
(Quote) Cindy-534370 said:

Hi Cheryl,

We teach the Catholic Vision of Love in the church. It is geared for each age group. You can call your parish and get some other information on this. I am CVOL certified, and each year it is taught for each grade level. This year they are involing the parents more and they are participating with this program.

Here is some information to get you started. I went down to grade 5, a PDF is there or you can look over all the others too.


www.diopitt.org

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Thank you...it looks like a lot of good information to read on it.

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