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Some got married, some found someone on another site, some got kicked off, some left to care for family members (aging parents), every reason there is. I still communicate with them on FB..
If you have a plan that Admin should follow to prevent divorced people from seeking a spouse maybe you could suggest it. People that are still legally married, but separated still sign on here by choosing divorced as their option.. CM covers themselves with the disclaimer..How do you suggest they do things differently? It's NOT on Admin, after all. It is on US as discerning adults to use our sensibilty to make decisions..Admin is not Mom and Dad and I don't want them to treat me like they are.
I've been thinking about it. The only suggestion I can come up with would be that if someone signs up as divorced, then CM could use that label that says "Seeking Friendship Only" (unless of course their ex-spouse is deceased and I saw in a Community Help forum that Nathan said they were thinking about how to handle this because of course the person doesn't need an annullment in this case) until they get their annullment and chang it to annulled. I have seen one or two men and women use this while they were In Process of annulment and it seems quite a reasonable thing to do. Everyone would still have their free will to do whatever they want, but at least it would make people think (I think). And, I disagree with you a bit. CM Admin. is running a Catholic site and in many ways enforce their rules. This would just be another way they could do so. People would still be free to contact each other and have their free will to do as they choose. I know I would appreciate this if it were implemented. I suspect some of the divorced people would grouse about it and perhaps even quit (but to me that would show that they weren't serious about following their Catholic faith).
...before we jump to condemn, it might be wiser to find out if they have even been given valid information regarding dating before annulment. Just a thought - and one I have had to refer to many times.
Anne Marie, I am not sure, but if you are suggesting that I am condemning people in my post, that was not my intention at all. I think people often misinterpret someone's telling the Truth as them judging others. Maybe that is what happened for you.
I agree, for all members.
I think it is on both Admin. and us. That can be seen throughout the world of capitalism. Someone sells you a product that causes damage and it is possible for the buyer to get compensated for that damage.
What bothers me, and no, not about you particularly, is when people say 'truth' and/or 'fraternal correction' when in fact they are simply being judgmental of others. Off topic, but I've seen it here more than once.
Good point, and I have been guilty of it at some time. Not necessarily on purpose. Thanks for getting back to me.
On a separate note, what spawned all of this was the recent CM article, Elizabeth Was Looking for Long Distance And Found Daniel www.catholicmatch.com
I placed a comment at the bottom of it. Seems like CM is confused about this policy as well, since they published the article.