(Quote) Jan-921295 said: I am somewhat confused by this as I was not aware of the disclaimer. My marriage ended in 1988 and to seek an...
(Quote) Jan-921295 said:
I am somewhat confused by this as I was not aware of the disclaimer. My marriage ended in 1988 and to seek an annulment now seems alittle odd. I can't see my ex agreeing to do it unless I was ready to marry someone....which I am not! Then there is the money aspect. I don't know it just does not sit well with me. I believe my marriage or end of it is between God and myself not between myself and a group of men who have never been married.
When I sought my annulment, I was not dating and did not have any intention of dating until my children were older. I sought the annulment because I wanted confirmation that the Sacrament of Matrimony did not exist at the time of my wedding; I wanted to know if I was free....not to marry, but to love God more clearly.
Like everyone else, I was not guaranteed an affirmative decision. The Tribunal could have decided there was not enough evidence to show the Sacrament was non-existent and I could have been still married in the eyes of the Church. But I wasn't. Several years later, I decided to see if God had marriage in His plans for me and I opened myself up to the possibility, partially by joining CM.
By the way, my former husband wanted nothing to do with our annulment and did not participate in the process at all. The Tribunal will still process your request. They may ask if you can find a witness on his side of the family. I asked my former mother-in-law to be a witness and she agreed.
As for your statement, "I believe my marriage or end of it is between God and myself not between myself and a group of men who have never been married." This is not the teaching of the Catholic Church. That is a more Protestant-like faith. Also, I know many good priests who understand marriage better than many married people.