There is a difference between "being in love" and loving someone. The romantic notion of being in love fades, ebbs and wanes. It's not sustainable over the long term. Loving someone is comfortable. It feels right. It can grow if nurtured the right way. I can honestly say that I don't think I was ever "in love" with my late husband. However, I loved him with all my heart. Having had that love once in my life, I know that I can have it again. Was he my "soul mate?" I don't know if there is such a thing but he wasn't it. He was, however, a good match for me. We loved each other and raised 6 wonderful children. We accepted each other for what we were. We didn't try to change each other or pretend we were something we weren't - right from the day we met. He was my best friend and biggest supporter and I hope that I was the same for him.
I'm not looking for the butterflies in the stomach feeling. I had that back in high school. I'm looking for my next best friend. I don't want a carbon copy of my late husband but I do want that same feeling of love, friendship, companionship and acceptance that we shared.
He wasn't THE love of my life. He was A love of my life. I'm hoping to find the next one. However, if I don't, I'll count myself lucky to have had at least one.
Cynthia, you rock. You call it like you see them with courage and I so admire you for that. I know unconditional love first hand and there are some days I wish I didn't. I often wonder if it IS a once in a lifetime gift. I pray to our Savior to blessed with that again.